Re: housewifes pay
My mother is a housewife, all her life, she has taken care of her husband and us, her kids, doing her best to keep her home in good condition and giving the best values and love to her family. But one thing that hurts me a lot is that regardless of the fact that she has done and still does her duty 24/7, she is appreciated or paid for it. Don’t get me wrong, but this is my observation, for MOST housewives that they are not appreciated enough, nor are paid enough, by pay I mean given an allowance. My mother always has to ask my dad and few times by brother for money, which is mostly for house needs, not her personal needs, but is first bombarded with questions for what the needs are, and then given a little lecture about how earning money is hard and she needs to control the spending, and after giving the money, they do it like its a burden or are doing a favor on her. Maybe she should be paid an hourly wage for as well for taking care my her husband’s kids, and his house, maybe us, her kids should pay her an hourly wage for taking care of us and loving us. But obviously, she doesn’t do it for money. Its usually the men, or at least the case in my house. My mom always has to ASK for money to fulfill her needs. I wasn’t expecting that from my brother, since his own wife works, and he has seen my mother’s situation, but I see him following my dad’s footsteps toward her as well, which saddens me. Why can’t a housewife be given an allowance without being asked what for? Just because they stay home and are not paid a regular salary makes it easy to intimidate them/control them, I guess. Is this the situation with every housewife? I know when I get married, I won’t be staying home for sure, even if I have to work at McDonald, I will, but I will feel so ashamed of asking my husband for money. What do the rest of the housewives have to say?
your bro is on the wrong path…he shouldnot question your mother regarding the money…infact he should give her the money before she asks him. i will say speak to your bro politely and calmly and make him realise that she is his mother, she has done sooo much for him and now its his duty.
as for your father well you can speak to him as well but since he is the husband so he might think that your mom told you to say all this.
if your dad and bro are not willing to change then maybe you can do part time work and help your mom out.
all the best.