^What's a corporate job?
a job held in a corporation i guess. :D
I quit work after being in a corporate job for 9 years. And I was educated here in the US. I chose to stay home after the babies were born because I had the option. I don't regret it.
That sounds just like my sister. She had a super successful career with one of the Big 4 firms, got married, changed jobs and went to a private firm, had kids (mA 3) and has been on maternity leave for the past almost 7 years.
She's currently a housewife by choice - but she's not planning on staying home indefinitely and says she will go back to work when her youngest is in school full-time which will put her out of the workforce for almost 10 years. I'm just concerned that re-entering the workforce will be tough since the industry and standards have changed so much and she's been out of touch.
How do stay-at-home moms deal with re-entering the workforce? Isn't it a challenge? How do you change your mindset from home to career? How doed your family adjust to your changed professional status?
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It is hard to go back to work if you've been off for so many years.
Last year I started applying for jobs again but now that my family has come to rely upon me for whatever I do being at home, it was so hard to accept that I would need to make so many adjustments. Things seem to be going pretty smooth so I feel like my going back to work would require a lot of changes by everyone. Of course we are all willing to make those changes if the right job comes along, but the good part is that I am in no rush or let's say the ball in my court so I can look without pressure.
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^ I would suggest you to at least have a part time job even once a week if that helps.. it's good to practice your skills and be always alert and up to date.. so the big sharks wont eat you up when you are back for hunting.
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I am thinking of changing my line of work completely! I want to teach little kids now. Maybe 
So now you don't want to concentrate on your relationship and family anymore?.. Sorry I'm lost here
Nope my dear , dont be lost , let me explain , the first months before and after the wedding are really stressful .. coz one is moving amongst new people and you gotta be able to give them time and attention ... ultimately you get to know them and it becomes easy to manage ...
Family is still priority like i said ...
anyways, one other thing, I dont know why highly experienced and qualified ladies feel guilty leaving their careers behind ... or taking a break .. coz I always thought , education , is not just to earn money ... its actually a tool that enables a women to make proper, calculated decisions in life .. it helps her look at life a totally different way and raise a family in a much better way.
My education is actually helping me understand the married life alot more .. and tomorrow inshallah when i have kids , I know that I will be able to groom them in a much capable manner as compared to my cousins in pakistan who didnt get the opportunity to complete their education.
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Depends on the job, honestly. Some fields, taking a 1-2 year hiatus is just going to be very detrimental. I know people in my line of work who take like 2-3 months off, to go get married and settle down with their husband, and some go part-time + some maternity leave when they have kids. Again, depends on the field, really.
But outside my field, yeah I know a lot who have left behind their work, to stay at home. Some eventually picked up their work again, or some just took those skills and used them in other ways.
It really depends on what you want to do, how tired you are, how much your husband makes, whether he prefers a stay at home wife, and your own work ethic/drive.
That sounds just like my sister. She had a super successful career with one of the Big 4 firms, got married, changed jobs and went to a private firm, had kids (mA 3) and has been on maternity leave for the past almost 7 years.
She's currently a housewife by choice - but she's not planning on staying home indefinitely and says she will go back to work when her youngest is in school full-time which will put her out of the workforce for almost 10 years. I'm just concerned that** re-entering the workforce will be tough since the industry and standards have changed so much and she's been out of touch.**
How do stay-at-home moms deal with re-entering the workforce? Isn't it a challenge? How do you change your mindset from home to career? How doed your family adjust to your changed professional status?
Yep.
Employers wont say it because they'll get in trouble, but they prefer to take a fresh kid off the block with new skills as oppose to mommie who used to do the job 10 years ago when computer programs ran on the old mac's and old pc's.
During 7 years maternity leave, one should really come up with ways to keep in touch with something work-related, just so that your resume doesn't have a huge gap, and you still have marketable skills. It can be something you do part-time, or maybe taking time off to work on another degree, etc.
What’s stopping you then? You can always get your degree online if you can’t be there physically.. plus try to do some volunteer work at your local school.. they are always looking for some extra help, and I heard they even hire volunteers if they are good at things.
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Nope my dear , dont be lost , let me explain , the first months before and after the wedding are really stressful .. coz one is moving amongst new people and you gotta be able to give them time and attention ... ultimately you get to know them and it becomes easy to manage ...
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Disagree.. you don't need a certificate to understand your partner, it's a simple logic.. loving and respecting... that is it... but if the spouse is born miserable, he/she will always be miserable whether be ten days into marriage or ten years into marriage.
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My education is actually helping me understand the married life alot more .. and tomorrow inshallah when i have kids , I know that I will be able to groom them in a much capable manner as compared to my cousins in pakistan who didnt get the opportunity to complete their education.
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Agree.. you can't preach your kids what you don't practice.. you wont be able to practice something if you don't have the knowledge.. if you don't have the knowledge, then shame on you.
yaaay Niksik… thats my long term plan too 
I’m in a corporate job right now… planning on having kid # 2, quitting and then switching careers after a couple years’ break.
I soooo wanna teach little kids, I love children 
and I think I’ll be pretty good at it .
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I believe, in this day and age with the economy the way it is, its a privilege to be able to stay at home with my kids. I don't see it as a prison sentence, I see it as a blessing to be able to afford this luxury of watching my children grow, nothing as rewarding as to contribute first hand in their crucial first yrs of early development and initial learning process.
oh and I am an MBA and used to work in the banking sector before.
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If degree in Applied Mathematics is considered as “serious” degree, my wife did and if this is a non-serious degree, OH GOD .. i m married to a joker? 
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I think people are missing the OPs point.
She's talking about people who studied very career oriented professional subjects, in a competitive environment where it's expected people will not only work but expect career advancement.
And then, to completely give up work not to raise a family but prior to that just to enjoy being at home and not having the pressure, stress blah blah.
Apart from CB, seems like all the other posters did it because of children.
So who has done it purely for being a lady of leisure?
What's stopping you then? You can always get your degree online if you can't be there physically.. plus try to do some volunteer work at your local school.. they are always looking for some extra help, and I heard they even hire volunteers if they are good at things.
I already volunteer at both my kids schools and also teach a 25 kids at the local Islamic school. I just need my teaching certificate.
Education is not a degree . It is creativity . With this 'E' oriented era , one can sit in his bed and can do wonders . OK I am talking about wonders in publications / Creativity / A shinning star on they sky . This excuse is long gone that staying at home will make you disconnected from the real world .
Take the example of GS . So many married women here . Spending time , chatting , exchanging ideas , helping others , cat fight . This is productive . To some extent it is . So it is all about how you channelize your abilities . Getting a piece of paper in the form of degree is not enough . A woman at home can be as productive as someone working full time in a office .
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^ but you do need a pieca paper to apply for a teaching job.. thx for the shpeel.
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^ We are talking about house wives , not someone to apply for job . 
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I think I'm going to quit Life1 until people learn how to read.
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^ or or until people learn how to eat!