Mo3- I have seen this in Pak families even in Pakistan where ladies are unable and unwilling to do their part and then complain that the husband does not do anything to help. Some of the things we talked about like shopping, maintenance, homework help, just spending time with kids is not seen as help.
On your second note to sara about the effort raising a kid takes, that is true. but when a kid is school age and available time increases, then it is no longer an issue.