Child care, I believe, is meant to be undertaken by the mother. All other domestic duties (food, clean house, etc) are supposed to be provided by the male, as far as I know.
The point is that there are plenty of people who are happy one way, and plenty of others who are happy the other way. Neither is wrong or bad, you just need to be honest about your expectations and keep your priorities in order. You will need to compromise about some things, and so will she. You just need to decide what you are willing to give up and what you are not.
Also, for both partners, the choice itself is important. I would be completely happy being a housewife, but if I were forced to be one, I would be miserable, I think.
Yeh I am talking about an ideal case scenerio cos ideally that's the way it should be...Im not married so I couldn't think otherwise...I do understand what ur sayin..you have to compromise..but the very fact that you get into a marriage with someone means you will be ready to. Like I said you do become responsible once you realize you have to and know where your priorities lie. But it works both ways. Yes, marriage may be a compromise, but it shouldn't be that just for one partner and a party for the other.
well "anil khan"
i have to say i disagree with you here
if a man can work then why cant a woman if she wants to????????
i mean hellooooooooooooooo all "bemariyan" & "pareshania" always happen to women who are inside 24/7 cooking cleaning &busy wid da kidz and this has been proved by scientists
you need to go out evryday!!!! so what you might go out for abit to some-ones
home or do some shoping but its not enough
seriously i encourage all women to work and become professionel women
aadi mushkilat door hojati hai!!!!!!!!!!
why do you people think that "urat ki zindagi sirf ghar,khawand aur uskai bachai hi hai"
thats not a life!!!!!! and galz arent born to cook,clean,look after the children and be her hubbys & her in-laws slave they should do all dat but not 24/7 i assure you majority of pakistani mindz think like that
Putting the emotional, cultural, chauvanistic and all the other issues aside....
It IS important for little ones to have the feeling that they are a very important part of their PARENTS lives. Typically and traditionally, it has been the female to provide most of this part and the make to provide the income to make it all happen. Blessed is the woman to have that option esp in this day and age!
Its a tough, tough job and one that I've felt not quite up to occasionally. I had a tough job in wall street technology but that was NADA compared to parenting lol!
Just keep in mind to find yourself a partner who is at least somewhat in agreement on what you both want for your children....that will make all the difference in the world. I've seen successful households where both parents have careers AND successful "traditional" households where one parent stays home. Also, I've seen "bad" households in both situations. Success or failure depends upon whether the PARENTS are in agreement and work together as a team or not.
A household is most happy when each of it's member is doing what they wish to do in life and when the others can recognize this need of self growth and cooperate. One should take one's responsibilities seriously but I guess that happens automatically when you have a family.
That is true. But here on such forums we know people from what they say. At least I did not try to uncover the truth hidden between the lines. My feelings are coming straight from your own words without any thought processing. But yes a crime is a crime...
Firstly, realize that this is not cafe and your style of writing is inappropriate if not juvenile. Secondly, its ironic that someone who claims to have scientific knowledge uses words such as "dats" and "lyk". What you wrote made no sense grammatically or in content. I urge you to communicate in URDU if english is too advanced for you.
Firstly, realize that this is not cafe and your style of writing is inappropriate if not juvenile. Secondly, its ironic that someone who claims to have scientific knowledge uses words such as "dats" and "lyk". What you wrote made no sense grammatically or in content. I urge you to communicate in URDU if english is too advanced for you.
hello have you ever heard of "abreviations"??????
i dont think you have so i will edit my previous for you
and this time update it in full words happy btw im not doing it on purpose im used to them and its very hard not to use them now since i used them in 99.9 pourcent of all the forums i have joined lol
O K, when I get married I wanna be a housewife. I'm a graduate, I have a masters and i'm still studying so if I ever need to work I will have the qualifications to do so, it's just that I have a strong traditional side to me that makes me want to take care of people around me, and I would wanna give a lot more time to my home and family when i'm married.
Being a housewife does not mean you have to sit at home watching indian or pakistani TV, there are so many things you could do just think about it, Is that such a bad thing? I'd wake up late, go to the gym, read, take art classes, learn to cook exotic dishes, learn different languages, take some islamic courses, visit my friends and do lots of things I don't have time to do normally.
couples who can afford to have the mommy at home are very fortunate. the cost of things is certainly not what it used to be. therefore, those who can manage with one working bee are lucky. i've always hoped to be a housewife once i (we) have kids. that's why i've started working when still single so that i can save money early and be "selfish" later. this way, i can stillwork couple of years into marriage and finish my last degree and then fully devote my time to family and not feel guilty or financially burdensome. i was raised this way and i think its the best love i can pass onto my kids.
…you and maddy are so much used to your lil confort that you can not realise how much you have for little money in this “day and age”…go to the poor countryside of pakistan or india…and share the lives of poor farmers…and then tell me how much people need to work in the west to have a household that is not “poor”
most of the poors in europe are single moms and divorced people…most divorc occur because woman and man in this day and age don’t want to give up their selfish egos for their partners.
most fights occurs because men want to do what women are doing “stayathome”…while women want to do what men are doing “work outside”…
man and woman are competing each other instead of completing each other, when they both work, that’s why they fight and end up divorcing…
are so much used to your lil confort that you can not realise how much you have for little money in this “day and age”…go to the poor countryside of pakistan or india…and share the lives of poor farmers…and then tell me how much people need to work in the west to have a household that is not “poor” 
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