Yes, it's advisable to both parties to do what is prudent. However....when one thinks critically about a situation.....it is natural for one to not only think of the most practical solution but to also contemplate upon the reasons of the proposal and the intention of the one proposing the idea.
X2....prudent people will look at things from various angles and a smart person will at least reflect over the motives/intentions/ of the other person as well. Even if the guy proposing the suggestion does not *have any *"funny business" on his mind....a girl who is prudent will **reflect on the matter in a thorough manner not excluding a reflection on his intentions.
Not everyone here is an "aunti" lol. I'm in my twenties.....but perhaps gender plays a role in point-of-view as well. So does culture. And the connotations associated with such a suggestion also play a role in shaping one's views.
The funny thing I've noticed is that when one looks at the scenario from the view point of a young guy wanting to hang out with some girls with little hassle.......it's different. But with time........perhaps.......when that same guy becomes the father of a daughter, his views might change and not be as flexible if he were to find out that some guy wants to meet his daughter in a hotel room. Similarly a guy might be relaxed about making such a proposal himself to some girl.........but he might not be so relaxed if another guy were to ask his own sister to meet him in a hotel room.
You and I have our varying views regarding the issue. But at least we both agree that both the guy and the girl should be prudent and opt for the most practical/safe option. Also, I think we can both agree that when being prudent...one should reflect over many aspects of the situation (safety, reputation, character, intentions, etc). And we can both agree that since the lines can blur so much, there is** no absolute answer** here in any case. :)
As I have already stated, I dont disagree with anything you are saying, I was amused at the 'guys are horndogs' type of posts the entire first page and half was filled with. The individual's intentions are a key aspect here and that then depends on the individual, blanket statements that just because a guy wants to meet someone in a hotel room automatically means he wants hanky panky as stated earlier was something that needed to be addressed.
I think I wrote already what my view of the a good prudent situation is, which is somewhat of a group outing, which has its own issues because the more ppl who are involved the more the chances of tongues wagging.
Now ideally parents would be open minded enough that they would allow their kids to meet people in a safe environment, that is what my family practised, for guys and girls both. So there was no need to sneak around for privacy or for fear of gossip.
Thank God for my family.