SOOOOO true…gosh I though I was the odd one out. I moved to Toronto from a smaller city in CA, that samller city had much better sense of community and ppl used to mingle and were very very sincere (at that time) I was used to a different kind of attitude in desi/arab/overall muslim community all together, then came big old toronto, OMG, ppl just don’t talk to you there I mean desi muslims, I went to mosques, tried be-friend few ppl throgh cuople ppl I knew and it was hard. I went to ISNA mosques fr jumma, eid namaz and that didn’t help either.
Even when I got into some conversations, they start asking persoanl details like where do yo live, what do your parents do etc, once I tell them I live on my own, usually that followed by a long awkward silence. Once a woman came over during one of these minglings 
she asked me ‘I heard you live alone, do you have your own place, I said yes thats my own condo, she goes oh then you can really have a room-mate. I was like no sorry it is only 1 bdrm + den and really no space for 2 ppl, she goes so what 2 girls can live in the same room’ I mean it was nice of her to show concern but please don’t choke me with your ideas. I envy ppl who find othger ppl they can have good converstaion and time with. I lived in toronto for about 10 years, and made few friends, through work, and other activities. After a while I didn’t even make any effort with desi circle because my fiance at that time moved there after couple of years, 2 of my cousins moved there, and then my cousins from north east started coming pretty much every weekend, so we used to go and explore city and around on our own without being too bothered about desi commuinty etc.
May be thats what you need to do PCG…