Re: Hope for single ladies
If a girl chose to delay marriage well into her 30’s in order to pursue higher education/career, then she has already gone against Pakistani community norms. If they managed to go through MBA or law school or entire med school/residency/fellowship route…then they are certainly allowed to go outside of the house for long hours. In fact, many of these girls may even be living separately from their parents so its not like the parents are keeping tabs on their daily activities. This thread certainly isn’t about 21 year old’s who have barely graduated college and are home by sunset. We’re talking about grown women with graduate level degree who chose to pursue a fulfilling full-time career.
I am not saying it’s a easy choice…but this choice does exist. If a girl (or her parents) would rather she stay single than consider the option of marrying a non-Pakistani Muslim…then that really is up to them no? They don’t want to stand up to their parents OR go against their “want” of wanting to marry a Pakistani guy…yet they want other Pakistani families to change how they choose a bride…does that seem logical to you?
Its just like Reha said…you want something…then go get it. Single women in their 30’s who delayed marriage to pursue education/career that wants a nice/normal/educated/U.S. citizen/no accent/in shape/someone who will treat her as equal type of guy to marry and have kids with…instead of wasting precious months/years whining about the double standards…they need to find that man (even if he’s not Pakistani), marry him, and live their life. You (I don’t mean YOU but single women in their 30’s in general ) have issues with standing up to their parents or for some reason refuse to look for a guy on their own outside the Pakistani community…then they need to accept their own choice & realize their limiting themselves.
P.S. If a woman’s parents would prefer her to remain single her entire life rather than being ok with her marrying a non-Pakistani Muslim guy…then why don’t these women start with changing the views/attitudes of their own parents rather than telling the guys families how they should do things? B/C in this situation…it’s the girl’s own parents that are preventing her from exploring all her halal options.
ok then I don’t know very many girls in this category, I have not come across many independent, professional girls who chose not to get married, even under parents pressure, who now sit around whining about not finding someone to get married to. They’re far too busy with their own professional and social lives to focus on just that aspect of life, so I can agree with you there.