Hope for single ladies

[Paheli00]

Re: Hope for single ladies

@lafuriaroja

Where society and men come into play is when an overweight guy can demand that he wants a beautiful, slim girl and he gets it. Or a dark as night dude insists on having a fair beautiful girl and he gets that too. Again the reason for this… girls are taught to compromise, guys aren’t. The double standard is where the problem lies. If a girl is expected to go out there and be proactiv and do whatever she can to get a good catch, a guy should have to do that too. But there is immense pressure on girls in society vs. men. I mean I’m just talking about looks here but it applies to personality too, there are many guys out there who think girls shouldn’t be too smart or shouldn’t be involved in finances or whatever.

1. If a slim girl is willing to marry a overweight guy, who are you or anyone else to say that it’s somehow wrong? I know plenty of girls who are skinny but CHOOSE to date/marry a guy who’s far from being in shape.

2. My husband is easily 4-5 shades darker than me. I CHOSE to marry him and his skin color has never bothered me. So again…why the assumption that every girl marrying a guy significantly darker than her is compromising or somehow marrying beneath her?

And besides, if a Pakistani girl is having such a hard time find a Pakistani groom for whatever reason, why not consider non-Pakistani Muslims? Many Pakistani men don’t seem to have an issue with marrying a non-Pakistani girl. Allah made it halal for us to marry Muslims period…regardless of race. If a Pakistani girl is really having such a hard time find a Pakistani groom…yet refuses to look outside the Pakistani community despite it being permissible in Islam…then who is really to be blamed for her still remaining single? The same girls who complain about the Pakistani double standards, how unfair/biased the community is etc. would rather stay single and whine about how unfair society is…rather than marrying a non-Pakistani and moving on with their life. So again…boils down to them making that choice and not exploring EVERY option available to them in terms of finding a “normal” and “nice” guy.