Hope for single ladies

[PyariCgudia]

Re: Hope for single ladies

@Reha

That’s the thing though…what you may think is normal is not normal for someone else.

My point is…if you really want to get married badly…then you have to do something about it. You cannot just wait for things to happen. Position yourself in a way where you can get a guy you like.

You want a handsome guy? Do you look good?

You want an educated guy? How well can you match him?

You want a rich guy? Well…why would he invest in you?

You want a fit guy? Where is your six pack?

Everyone subconsciously looks for a partner that is their match. So…be that match.

Its not the nicest thing to hear but it is how we function when we are looking for people. You see a guy’s picture and you immediately judge whether or not he’s a good fit for you physically without knowing his beshumar qualities…you judge because attraction is important to you. But when you see a guy you like…are you sure he will like you back? Do you look like the kind of girl he might want?

Putting blame on society or men or anything else renders women powerless…at the mercy of our berehem mashra and I don’t think that’s right. Yes, our society has faults but let’s not use that as a cop out or an excuse to not have to work on ourselves.

That’s a little harsh. Marriage isn’t all about looking hot, and some people have the looks they have and attraction is subjective. I’ve been called ugly to my face when I was a skinny stick and a BMI of 22, which is normal. I have been called beautiful when I’ve been overweight, more often, way more often, then when I was skinny. Weird. And then I’ve been outright turned down by guys without a second look.

It’s all subjective. Just like I could find a guy attractice who you think looks like poo no matter how hard he works out.

But if you’re talking about extremes then yeah, if your BMI is hitting high, then no harm in bringing yourself into shape, it only benefits you in the long run.