Re: Hope for single ladies
Of course not marrying someone from overseas is justified. Which is why I acknowledged in the previous post that women who choose this route are taking a risk. On the flip side, girls who are not willing to take this risk should not be shocked if the pool of eligible men for them is smaller.
I never said an educated girl should not want an educated guy. My point was that once again…if a girl, even if she herself has a graduate degree, insists on someone with a graduate degree and rejects guys b/c they only have a Bachelors…then she should not be shocked if she’s having a harder time finding a guy.
I can’t comment much on this b/c again…this is all subjective. The girls/their families may seem great to you but you have no idea how the acted/what was said during a rishta meeting. And the guy’s side may have had their own reasons for rejecting them. As we all know…there are always 2 sides to a story…and then there’s the truth. While I have no doubt you have been told by these girls what experiences they went through, you must keep in mind that you only heard their own perception of the situation which MIGHT be biased.
Bottom line also is that we all (guys AND girls) need to live with the choices we made. I chose to wait and married in my 30’s. Most of my friends/co-workers marry in their 30’s. Yet I do know a few girls who are in their mid to late 30’s and still single…can’t find someone despite looking for years. If a girl chooses to wait for marriage for whatever reason…there is nothing wrong with that. But she should also realize that there are consequences to that decision. She may have a fulfilling/thriving career BUT may also have a very difficult time finding a spouse…especially if she is insisting on her spouse being Pakistani and meeting ALL her criterias (even if those criterias are reasonable). That’s just the realities of life. It all goes back to supply and demand and unfortunately, there is not a lack of beautiful girls in their early to mid 20’s available for marriage who are also nice and come from decent families. So men don’t really have to “compromise” when it comes a girl’s age if they want someone young. This has nothing to do with what’s right and wrong…its just the realities of our society and this will not change anytime soon.
Ok i understand your pov much better now. You are basically saying that if you want some things, no matter even if they are the basics, you might have to wait and perhaps face hardships in the process.
If you look at the long term histroy, the old system probably worked more successfully than the new approach. Yes one can argue about the cons of ‘joint family system’ and presence of ‘male dominance’ in the old system, but there were plenty of pros also.
Agreed.