Re: Hope for single ladies
Fix your attitude and fix the kind of men you’re choosing. Make yourself flexible to change and open to ideas and different kinds of people.
My husband doesn’t touch my money but that doesn’t mean I don’t contribute to HH expenses at all. I still take care of some stuff on my own.
We are night and day different. He is a born and bred die hard Pakistani…I am not. He has an accent. He has good Urdu though so we trade words. He lives like Scrooge…I love to eat out and shop he doesn’t at all. He’d rather cook something at home and rotate the same clothes until they’re threadbare. But he is such a good guy…who cares if I don’t do anymore fine dining?
You WILL compromise on some things, PCG. Face it. So will your husband. Do you not think you have baggage of your own that your husband will have to deal with? You do and it shows in your posts. God knows, even I did when I got married.
Learn to be humble. Yes your career is important but at the end of the day…its not the only thing fulfilling you…you still are looking for a companion, aren’t you? When you get married, your marital life will have to be first and foremost in the beginning, that’s just how it will be IF you want to make it work. Your career will come second…not first…from that point forward.
Marriage is not a game played by only your rules…it doesn’t work like that. It takes a lot of compromise, changing and adapting to a lifestyle that is working for BOTH. Not just one.
In all fairness though…I will agree with you on one point…many men do prey on women who are financially strong…and quite shamelessly. In the process of learning to protect yourself, you develop a deep distrust for people and that shows without a woman wanting to let it show.
What I am trying to tell you is…maybe you need to change your attitude towards this process. Maybe you need to stop being so defensive and giving your career so much importance when getting to know these men. IF you want to get married, your attitude will have to change.