Re: Hope for single ladies
Sign a pre nup then. I have assets in my name which I don’t see why anyone should be entitled to. If a girl had a problem with that I wouldn’t marry her. That’s a choice I’d make.
As far as giving up a career is concerned, clearly there are women, desi women, whose in-laws and husbands are fine with them working, and fully support their careers. To state that you haven’t found any such families is either bad luck on a cosmic scale, or it’s a matter of those families not being interested in you for whatever reason. That’s something you need to figure out.
I asked this before and I’ll say it again: if you found a guy who was willing to let you work as much as you want, met your religious and social criteria, but was lacking in say, looks or career, would you marry him? Because that’s exactly the type of compromise people sometimes have to make in a marriage partner. If you choose not to compromise, then that’s your choice as an adult, not solely society’s fault. We all know the flaws in our communities but to avoid taking any agency for your life is playing the damsel in distress.
And just to put it in perspective: talk to any guy in Pakistan who’s not from a wealthy family and they’ll tell you how difficult it is to find a decent job, which is a requirement to get married. No family will even consider them unless they’re deemed financially stable enough to support a family so it works both ways, at least to some degree.