Aaze
August 28, 2014, 9:39am
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Re: Hope for single ladies
See, this is the attitude i don’t understand to be honest. You got that I am complaining, but did you read why? My sister always says i am mean for accepting to marry before her, for using my parent’s money on my wedding when it should have been her turn and much more.
My brother who is younger than her is also engaged. It was a love affair. His fiancée waited 2 years before he could make it official as he wanted to wait for my elder sister to get a risha first. With pressure from the girl family, we had to do their engagement. Now it has been over 2 years and we cannot get them married because of my elder sister disagreement. She keeps on saying our bhabi to be is only 25yrs old so she can wait and she stop being egoistic.
As family members, we don’t take it to heart as much and try to move on. But has the blaming game helped her situation anyhow? No. But on the contrary, she has hurt many people’s feelings with her degrading comments on the numerous rishtas she got: the morons, the uneducated, the losers, the one beneath her, the ugly and the unfit, the gold diggers…etc
We live in a modern world, where anything said to a guy can be said to a girl…and i am sure no girl would like to be rejected only because they have poor degrees, low pay job, backwards parents or aren’t fit. Gone is the time where it was impressive to see a girl with a good career. You’re a doctor, an investment banker? Who cares! You earn a lot? Who cares!** Marriage is an emotional relationship..not a professional relationship.**
Well said at the bold part.
But I don’t get it. Why can’t your brother get married before your sister? It’s not like he is 18 or something I assume as you mentioned his to-be-wife is 25? Why would your parents/family allow your elder sister to dictate when her younger siblings can get married? If she can’t make a decision about her life, it’s her problem. Those who are ready to make the commitment should do so regardless of the fact that she is eldest.