Re: Hope for single ladies
I don’t know why people are fixated over weight here. Most desis looking for girls for their sons/ brothers want a fair complexioned girl along with a skinny one. A lot of them want a tall girl too, 5 5" or above. And yes, people tend to gravitate towards people from their own ethnicity, it’s human nature. Rishtas are hard to come by for girls even in Pakistan. So yes, ideally the younger you start the easier it is. That said, yes, beautify yourself, whether it’s losing weight or personal grooming and go out there and look aggressively.
Make a list of the top 10 attributes you want in a spouse and be ready to cross off 5 of these. Look realistically at the other 5. I have seen a number of girls who are short but want a tall guy, why? You want someone highly educated, good, but that doesn’t mean he has to be a doctor ( one lady I know wants specialists only).
Then try your best to find a spouse, email guys on websites, speak to people who may have a rishta etched.. In the case of PCG at least I have seen that she has compromised on a lot of things,** agreeing to marry much beneath her even**, maybe that’s why it didn’t work out in many of her prospective rishtas. Simply put, if you haven’t been in the same boat you can’t judge.
For the life of me I don’t know why PCG can’t find a rishta, she is well qualified and is looking in the right places. I chalk it up to luck but keep looking, IA you will find someone.
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How are some people ‘beneath’ us for any possible reason?! They are right or wrong for us, but ‘beneath’? seriously ? talk about narrow mindness!
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Yes you can judge/comment even if you have not been in the same boat. We have minds and hearts to understand and comment accordingly on a situation. Each person’s opinions will obviously be different. Each ha sown way to help