Re: Hope for single ladies
The main issue is that these girls become bitter about the younger one who gets engaged.
I am experiencing it myself.
I chose to let go many of my wishes and accepted my cousin from Pakistan because he was a good person at heart. MA i am now glad i decided to consider him because i discovered the side of him that was actually what i was looking for in a partner but was not apparent in him in the beginning ..such as modern thinking, no interference from family accepted, moderate Islamic view and a good communicator. I am now extremely pleased with my relationship MA but my elder sister is bitter and upset that my parents mention to their friends that it is the younger daughter that is getting married. She has asked us to stop talking about my wedding, she does not take part in any of the planning and i cannot express myself in front of her regarding my relationship or upcoming wedding because it upsets her. And this makes me feel guilty all the time.
During the past two years of my engagement , she MA got 8 rishtas, but refused all in first meeting as it isn’t what she is looking for. Now the blame is on my parents that they don’t know anyone decent and the blame on me is that the fact that I accepted a ‘freshy’, as she calls him, has made her life hard and has attracted many non british born to send rishtas.
Although i understand her decision to wait for her type of guy, I dont think she should hold anyone responsible for being single at 29+! If her decision is right, then why not live happily and wait for whatever best Allah kept for her. I have noticed that many unmarried girls age d 28+ , are bitter in some ways. Just look at the posts in this forum, it is always a complain about the rishtas they get! Why a freshy, why a mummy’s boy, why a student , why this and that! As far as I know, no one owe us girls to send a rishta. They do it because they thought you were a good girl…now it is a different story if you don’t find them good boys.
This is true. So instead of complaining about your bitter sister which is kinda mean, why not try to help her find some good options in the community? Maybe your soon to be husband can help too.
Why am I the one teaching to see people the glass half full?