hello all, so just some background …i have been born and bought up outside pakistan but went to uni in pak, met a guy and ALHUMDULLILAH we are off to marry soon in january. Living abroad with the luxuries.one can find only out of pak, i believe i have been a bit spoilt and now that i have to live there after marriage. I have many questions regarding my love life. But coming to honeymoon first, my fiance works in pakistan he doesnt earn much but is a man of great potential ALHUMDLLILAH and is erkng hard to save fr a great honeymoon..the problem is the places he suggests are those where i have already been or places wch be a yes yes fr pakis but a nono fr the abroad society..and the ones that i suggest i feel might be out of his budget, he hasnt mentioned his budget to me and i know if i stay stubborn he wll starve but save enough to take me to my dream honeymoon. The problem is i dont know any honeymoon places that are economical and posh..so can u guys help me..also if there r any men in this forum cld u tell me what wld a guy want out of a girl like me. Shld i just cmpromise o my honeymoon..i wll be lvng in a joint family and in pak ..i feel am cmpromosing already a lot. Helppp pleaseeee
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You were aware of his financial situation from the beginning. If your motto is going to be that you're already compromising by living in a joint-family and deserve more financially, I suggest you re-consider your relationship...
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You don't want to start your new life by taking on debt. He seems like a sweet man, and you say he has potential so why not go for an economical vacation this time around and postpone your "dream honeymoon" for when you're well-settled? He is probably under a lot of stress just saving for a wedding (I know the salaries in pakistan are really low and it's very hard to save up for the grand-scale weddings we are all used to). You don't want him to end up resenting you over an expensive honeymoon.
Even in Pakistan, there are tons of gorgeous places you can go for your honeymoon. When I was younger, my parents took us on trips all over Northern Pakistan (Murree, Sawaat, Quetta, Peshawar, etc.) for our summer holidays. I'm not sure how the political situation in Pakistan has affected those areas, but I still associate the beauty of those place to my fondest memories of Pakistan. You can still have a great vacation there and it'll cost you a song in comparison to going abroad!
Bear in mind, this is your honeymoon and you will be so absorbed in each other that regardless of where you go, you will have a wonderful time. Best of luck with the wedding and honeymoon planning!
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Why doesn't he move abroad with you as he doesn't currently earn well and has a degree that sent you abroad ( must be worth something if he has the same one) ? It won't be easy for you once the romantic phase is over. I see another @nadz123 situation in the making. Anyway, here goes economical :
1) Northern areas of Pakistan ( probably a no from your side)
2) Malaysia
3) Thailand
4) Sri Lanka
5) Dubai
6) Mauritius ( not very economical but flights may be cheaper due to proximity to Pakistan and exotic too)
7) China
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Which of the places have you rejected? You might get more ideas over here. And it's okay to postpone honeymoon to save up money as long as you guys stick to the plan and don't forgot about it completely. It's good to maintain a routine of smallish holidays rather than have one big one than nothing for the next twenty years. So you could do something smaller for now and keep doing the smaller ones regularly while saving for the big ones but that all depends on you.
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Maldives should be easy and cheaper. Another option is Sri Lanka (a lovely place to visit from what I've heard).
In Pakistan, ideal honeymoon places will be Hunza, Skardu, or Neelum Valley. But since you are getting married in January so I suppose there will be snow at those places during your honeymoon. In that case consider Lahore or city of Bahawalpur which was a former state and is a good place to be, according to reports I've received.
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You were aware of his financial situation from the beginning. If your motto is going to be that you're already compromising by living in a joint-family and deserve more financially, I suggest you re-consider your relationship...
Thank you so much for such fast replies...anna yes i do know about his financial status he has been very open about it and yet we have made this matuer decision, keeping in mind that every1 struggles in the beggining of their relationships, its just the struggles r dfferent some financially and some in other ways. The point is that if he saves up a lot i know we can afford the honey moon i want, i just want an opinion as to shld i put the burden on hm fr wrkng extra hard or shld icompromise and go to a economical honeymoon..u no a win win situation for both of us.
Re: honeymoon destinations 2015
You don't want to start your new life by taking on debt. He seems like a sweet man, and you say he has potential so why not go for an economical vacation this time around and postpone your "dream honeymoon" for when you're well-settled? He is probably under a lot of stress just saving for a wedding (I know the salaries in pakistan are really low and it's very hard to save up for the grand-scale weddings we are all used to). You don't want him to end up resenting you over an expensive honeymoon.
Even in Pakistan, there are tons of gorgeous places you can go for your honeymoon. When I was younger, my parents took us on trips all over Northern Pakistan (Murree, Sawaat, Quetta, Peshawar, etc.) for our summer holidays. I'm not sure how the political situation in Pakistan has affected those areas, but I still associate the beauty of those place to my fondest memories of Pakistan. You can still have a great vacation there and it'll cost you a song in comparison to going abroad!
Bear in mind, this is your honeymoon and you will be so absorbed in each other that regardless of where you go, you will have a wonderful time. Best of luck with the wedding and honeymoon planning!
I havnt been on a pak tour but thats totally not an option..i'd rather stay home:p do i know paks a beauty mashALLAH. Bt thank you your post rose my spirits.
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Why doesn't he move abroad with you as he doesn't currently earn well and has a degree that sent you abroad ( must be worth something if he has the same one) ? It won't be easy for you once the romantic phase is over. I see another @nadz123 situation in the making. Anyway, here goes economical : 1) Northern areas of Pakistan ( probably a no from your side) 2) Malaysia 3) Thailand 4) Sri Lanka 5) Dubai 6) Mauritius ( not very economical but flights may be cheaper due to proximity to Pakistan and exotic too) 7) China
I already live abroad snce birth, just went there for my uni. And yes moving abroad is the plan in the future..aal these places i have visited except mauritius and china..any more details on that please?
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first off congratulations on getting married soon!
Now honeymoon is one of those things designed to generate tourism revenue for countries in collaboration with hotel, airline, and other industries. The marketers and bridal euphorics have turned "honeymooing" as an essential closing-off *rasm *post *rukhsati. *The location, the distance from local land is not significant. The couple's escape from the initial burden of life's responsibilities the first few weeks or months to be dedicated to each other to build a new bond is what is the most significant part of honeymoon.
none of our prophet or the sahaaba, or the khalifa rashidoon, or any regular folks until really after WWII the concept took off!
But if your priority must lie in a honeymoon vacation to a far off land right after marriage and cannot wait until later, then people have suggested many economical options. This and other choices will make what your marriage will be like.
God bless!
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Why doesn't he move abroad with you as he doesn't currently earn well and has a degree that sent you abroad ( must be worth something if he has the same one) ? It won't be easy for you once the romantic phase is over. I see another @nadz123 situation in the making. Anyway, here goes economical : 1) Northern areas of Pakistan ( probably a no from your side) 2) Malaysia 3) Thailand 4) Sri Lanka 5) Dubai 6) Mauritius ( not very economical but flights may be cheaper due to proximity to Pakistan and exotic too) 7) China
btw i dnt know a natz21 situatio but i assume it went bad...actually i guess for us the romance phase has already gone:p..dnt worry ppl trust me this is a decision i have made cnsiderig everythng and he has all the qualities except **** loads of money. He is financially stable jst nt sooooo much.
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Which of the places have you rejected? You might get more ideas over here. And it's okay to postpone honeymoon to save up money as long as you guys stick to the plan and don't forgot about it completely. It's good to maintain a routine of smallish holidays rather than have one big one than nothing for the next twenty years. So you could do something smaller for now and keep doing the smaller ones regularly while saving for the big ones but that all depends on you.
thailand
Dubai
Malaysia
Singapore
Maldives
Pak tour
Saudi
..i want go go on a europe tour or turkey
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btw, SAUDI is not a honeymoon destination....unless one means Umra!
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btw, SAUDI is not a honeymoon destination....unless one means Umra!/Q
yeah u know like the whole gulf.package saudi(umrah) dubai oman qatar
You need to decide what is "posh" and whether thats more important or finances
For eg Morroco is nice- cheap and expensive David Beckham recently celebrated his 40th bday in a 2.5k a night room! I went in feb and spent £800 for thw two of us lol
Mauritius is nice we honeymooned there. Its not cheap but its not isolated like the maldives.
Sri lanka
Malaysia
Dubai
Turkey
Singapore etc the world is at your feet its up to u where u go and what u spend.
Cant u contribute towards the trip also?
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You need to decide what is "posh" and whether thats more important or finances
For eg Morroco is nice- cheap and expensive David Beckham recently celebrated his 40th bday in a 2.5k a night room! I went in feb and spent £800 for thw two of us lol
Mauritius is nice we honeymooned there. Its not cheap but its not isolated like the maldives.
Sri lanka Malaysia Dubai Turkey Singapore etc the world is at your feet its up to u where u go and what u spend.
Cant u contribute towards the trip also?
Can u d.m me your mauritius expenses morocco ddnt thnk of thattt ..thank you so much..about the contributing thng i was going to come on that..i was wnderng if i cld secretly save up and all..cz he wld never allow me to contribute wch i know is very old fashioned now that everythng is so xpensive but he is like that...i'd like to know more about morroco and mauritus pleaae if u could personally message me the cost details...what about turkey ppl..any costings on that?
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I'm sure honeymoons are where the couple take a few days off just to relax and get to know each other better, and just get away for a bit. As long as your partner is with you, you should be happy regardless where he takes you.
That being said, you should really talk to your fiance about where you want to spend your honeymoon. Tell him the locations you want to go to, and then talk about the finances side of it. Maybe you can come up with a solution together.
Also many 'posh' places can be done on a budget. Depends how much your willing to research about the various hotels, times of the year when it's better to visit etc. There's many smart ways to budget. Just research!
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Turkey is a great idea too. Istunbul is beautiful if you can do just one city. Again not too far from Pakistan. Travel agents in Pakistan could work out the costs better for you since you would be going from there. My friend who also likes posh destinations went to China and visited the Great Wall etc. loved it. Mauritus too is a lovely Island, another friend loved it. Contact Gerry’s travels in Karachi Gerry?s - Local Expertise , Global Vision. They can work out packages and you can decide if your husband to could be on board financially.
Nadz123 is a member here, brought up abroad and lived in Pakistan after marriage, didn’t go too well. Now trying to settle back abroad. I hope your husband is ok with the two of you moving abroad in the future as well. Everything is not about money, but things are different in Pakistan. People do move back but only if they feel they like it better there for a number of reasons.
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Also, Eastern Europe isn't as expensive as western and a bit off the beaten track too if you want to go to Europe. The plane tickets would be expensive, but getting around, hotels, food etc wouldn't be as expensive as Western Europe.Chez Republic, Romania, Bulgaria being some examples. Lovely castles too for your honeymoon pics.
You could add your salami money to the honeymoon fund or keep the salami money ( cash gifts people give at weddings) to use later to help your finances after the honeymoon or if your patents are giving gold ask them to give more cash than gold or furniture etc. a few thousand dollars do go a long way in Pakistan if you are living a middle class lifestyle.
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thailand Dubai Malaysia Singapore Maldives Pak tour Saudi ..i want go go on a europe tour or turkey
europe tour is expensive even for those of us on Western incomes so I can't imagine...
I wanted to go to Maldives but was bummed because we're obviously poor students so we're doing Mexico again (which I've been to NUMEROUS times). I've been looking at it this way-- this is the first time I'm going to be going with my HUSBAND so it'll be different and special regardless. My married friends always say that they would've been happy anywhere, and that it was the fact that they got to spend time together with their husbands that made the trip amazing -- the location didn't matter as much!
good luck!