Re: honesty needed. upset,.
But that’s the beauty of the board - having multiple perspectives and opinions and advices (sp?) being offered - for most people, it forces them to at least consider another perspective. To actually accept an opinion that goes against us, is a mark of maturity and very few people tend to see themselves at fault. Hence, people end up opinion-shopping and only listening to the one that suits them.
In Nadz situation it has never been a clear black-and-white situation with Nadz being wrong and her MIL/husband right or vice versa. And that’s where Nadz cycle of victimdom continues because she’s not to blame 100% and she runs with the 5% or 95% (given the situation) that works in her favour. But that’s speaks to emotional maturity and one can’t force or compel maturity.