honesty needed. upset,.:/

[Sehrysh]

Re: honesty needed. upset,.

@pwner

So you don’t focus on the content of my post? You rather respond to it based on your judgement of what my intent may or may not have been? Thats so sad :(…speculative much?

You are right in saying its everyones fault to some extent. but from what she posts here. Its pretty simple who has a greater role to play.. When sheit hits the fan..the right thing is to handle the shiet that has befallen upon one’s situation. rather than keep putting blame and ‘why this, why that’… As zafra said earlier, as long as nadz keeps getting some sort of support/real or virtual/ she goes on to what she does.

Tell the truth - are your posts not laden with sub-text?

And as far as Nadz, she has been told umpteen times that she is wrong and that she is responsible for most of the issues. Nadz refuses advice and she comes back here time and time again. It’s widely understood that she comes to vent rather than seek advice since she never accepts and applies any suggestions to help her out.

Is allowing her to open threads enabling her in continuing her disfunctional relationship and not remediating the situation? I don’t think so - because as often as someone tells her that her MIL is terrible, others will tell her she’s wrong and to improve her own behaviour. She’s not getting validation here - she probably gets more criticism than anything else.

Until the day she takes ownership for her actions, perceptions and her reactions - nothing is going to change and the cycle continues.

But maybe somewhere along the way she’ll have an epiphany (and no, I don’t think GS will be responsible for her epiphany) and realize her happiness is in her control - contentment is being grateful for what you have and seeking joy not from others, but from ourselves.