Re: honesty needed. upset,.
^ The one time I’m not careful with what I wrote 
The husband isn’t *dood ka dhulla *and neither is his amma, both of whom were born in Pakistan. This isn’t about country of birth, but conflicts arising from residency preference.
No one in the disfunctional relationship of DIL/MIL or husband/wife or mother/son - knows balance or compromise - but home country can’t be blamed for personality issues.