Honest opinions needed

mamababaandbaby · July 21, 2009, 9:05am

why would he give me a piece of his mind?

If she was telling off HIS side of the family…I dont think he would have been as supportive as he was so far.

Anyway, you did overreact in the first scenario. Here is the reason why: Mamus, chachas, khalas, khaloos, mamis, phuppos, etc. all look at their children as CHILDREN. My dear, to your mamo, you ARE a child so its no surprise he treats you like one. He did take your child from your arms, yes. But he probably felt like holding him and didnt think you’d mind if your own mamu held your baby for a bit. He didnt snatch him and run off…he actually took the baby from your arms. He doesnt have to ask you, sorry to let you down.

The second scenario…you were plain outright rude. I am not trying to just go with the flow here but seriously…are you the first one on the planet to have a baby? Why are you harping on and on about your child and using him as an excuse to blow your fuse at people? Yeah, the people you were talking to were mothers and they probably were thinking “grow up” when they said what they said to you.

Listen, if you want people to treat you like an adult you have to act like one. Being over 18 doesnt mean you dont have to control yourself anymore…it actually means you are expected to have more decorum and control then a toddler. The only person in my home who is allowed tantrums is my niece and that is only because she is still being potty trained. Even if you want to stick your ground in a situation, there are a million other ways to make your point without looking and sounding rude. Imagine how horrible you made your mamu feel by telling him off when he simply wanted to hold your child!!! Imagine how your khala must have felt when she saw you getting ready to go even before a family function was completely over!!! Whatever happened to self-control? My sister has a kid and I havent ever seen her storming off because she is sleepy and cranky. She takes care of her kid, divides responsibility between herself and hubby and makes sure the baby doesnt get affected by whatever phase she is going through. Did you think of sending your husband home with the baby so you could stay longer until the wedding was over? This is your family and you’re stuck with them whether you like it or not. If you are going to keep acting immaturely and give them the impression that you dont like them…they wont stick around for long. They too will get sick of your attitude and say “Bubye” to you and yours.

Just because you have a baby doesnt mean you have the green light to be rude and mean to people…you’re not the first and you wont be the last to give birth. Your husband should NOT have supported this type of behaviour at all…he is just as guilty for egging you on.

PSquared, hold a baby in your arms, and then have some one pull it out of your arms when your not looking, whoever it is, put your self in that situation and then think about my reaction

I am a grown up, i was stating that i am leaving, my son is too tired now and we have a 2 hour journey to get back home
then have some one say “koi Fark nehi parta”

Yes i know i am not the only one with a baby, and because of that i know how tired, tense and exhausted you can get, how one day the baby is eating /sleeping normally and then the next day he/she is al over the place and doesn’t want to eat, wont sleep till 2 am in the morning and your there with him the whole time ignoring your own needs and looking after him.

why should my Khala feel horrible if i want to leave, i have taken my Leave from my host, i am INFORMING my MOTHER as a courtesy.

My husband didn’t egg me on, and Qudos to your sister for looking after her baby so well, i divide the responsibility too, but in all of this, don’t you think parents know how tired their child is and when he is going into overdrive and need to get him home to get heim calm again?