I don’t know if youll say i am over protective or what but i just want to know your opinions on if i did the right thing in these two situations involving Family members,
Fortunately my Husband supports me in both, and as he was not on the spot says i did the right thing and he would have ended up making the situation worse cos these are my family members
Situation 1:
Back in March we were at a family wedding and it’s near the end, Hubby was qued up to get tea, i was holding my son on my hip, turned facing towards hubby and using hand gestures letting him know how many cups of tea we needed.
Baby is in held in a firm grip he was about 8-9 months then, so always wanted to get down to crawl hence the firm grip.
Next thing i know is that i feel him being pulled from my hold, turn to see who it is, it’s one of my mom’s brothers, my Mamu.
He has my son now, and i shout/get really angry at him in the hall infront of 2 -3 other aunts and uncles saying along the lines of
“how dare you take my son from me like that, who are you to do that”
one of my Khala’s (mum’s sister) is telling me to calm down and stop with the scene, and i am so totally furious i walk away from there to calm myself down,
stupidly leaving my son there. Of course i know he will be safe, but can Mamu not have ASKED to hold him? instead of yank him?
told my Ammi about it while still in the Hall, i have no idea if she spoke to her brother or not, or if she said anything later, got NO feedback
Situation 2:
we’re at my cousin’s Nikaah function, travelled to Loindon on a sunday evening for it, it’s late night now 11:30, ruksati still hasn’t happened and my son is getting highly agitated, Hubby says to go,
My cousin’s mom knew we may leave early, and had asked us during the function if we would, at the time baby had been fine and we’d said we would see how it goes.
i was talking to my mom to let her know that baby was now too tired and we were going to leave, she said that “you were going to stay till the end” i said “He’s upset now, so we’re gonna make our way home,”
at this point My khala pipes in and says
“it doesn’t make a difference if you stay longer”
that was the red flag for me and i was like, “it makes no difference to you but it does to me”
she say’s “my son is in bed at 9.00 every night” (her son is 8-9 Years old)
i ignored that and had 2nd Khala telling me that i should not have spoken to her like that
my reaction,
“i’m talking to my mom, i don’t need any body telling me it does not make a difference”
point to note, the night before we had been at my mom’s i had put baby to bed on time but he woke up after half an hour and my dad brought him down, 
and we got home but he didn’t sleep til after 1 am!
i had told my mom about his late night the night before and she knew his sleep had been upset for the past few days.