Which is better?
My sister wants to home school my niece and I understand why but I can’t help but feel sorry for my niece. She has no siblings and she barely sees anyone besides her parents’ faces 24/7. My sister is somewhat conservative, stirct, and religious.
I do like the idea of home schooling when I see how kids are bullied in schools and their self-worth is drained by mean kids. Has any of you parents tried both? Which works better?
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Personally I think going to brick and mortar school sharpens social skills better , makes them a little more street smart , they get ready to face the world head on . They will know to handle stress , how to deal with bullies , how to mediate , how to be a leader , how to be a follower , when to let it go , when to confront , how to control temptations , how to deal with peer pressure etc etc.
If you raise your kids in a cocoon they will turn out to be as delicate and fragile as a butterfly.
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Which is better?
My sister wants to home school my niece and I understand why but I can't help but feel sorry for my niece. She has no siblings and she barely sees anyone besides her parents' faces 24/7. My sister is somewhat conservative, stirct, and religious.
I do like the idea of home schooling when I see how kids are bullied in schools and their self-worth is drained by mean kids. Has any of you parents tried both? Which works better?
You raise very valid concerns.
I've never been pro home-schooling but I can see the value when there is an otherwise active social life. For your niece, I think it will be very lonely.
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I think first 5 or 7 years should be spent with parents at home, if possible. I hate UK schools and no matter how much I have to sacrifice my time I'd prefer them to be homeschooled at least until the age of 11.....or alternatively I'd move to a country with good and affordable schools.
Besides this, homeschooling parents have to deal with too much crap, people are always judging them. What else can I say, it's a difficult world to live in.
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^What do you do for your children to build their social skills?
It's usually kids past the age of 11 who become really mean. They will chew your kids out.
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^I spend time with them, talk to them, teach them, take them to places. My motive was a bit different actually, I plan to live in different places/countries so that was one of the reasons for homeschooling, I want them to learn about the world and people and cultures, not the other way around.
They have very good social skills, they know how to behave in front of elders and how to treat kids younger than them. The only problem is that I don't get enough time for myself.
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Personally I think going to brick and mortar school sharpens social skills better , makes them a little more street smart , they get ready to face the world head on . They will know to handle stress , how to deal with bullies , how to mediate , how to be a leader , how to be a follower , when to let it go , when to confront , how to control temptations , how to deal with peer pressure etc etc. *If you raise your kids in a cocoon they will turn out to be as delicate and fragile as a butterfly. *
and that's what I am afraid of. My niece is just 3 and she is already so sensitive. But on the other hand, kids are really mean and it takes a toll on children no matter how smart they are. My sisters never did well in school because they were bullied. It was so hard on them that instead of finishing high school they opted for the GED. My younger sister just graduated with a 4.0 GPA. The youngest one is still in college. So having seen them suffer from bullying to this extent, it really makes me want to root for homeschooling.
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^I spend time with them, talk to them, teach them, take them to places. My motive was a bit different actually, I plan to live in different places/countries so that was one of the reasons for homeschooling, I want them to learn about the world and people and cultures, not the other way around.
They have very good social skills, they know how to behave in front of elders and how to treat kids younger than them. The only problem is that I don't get enough time for myself.
Awww.. That's beautiful. My sister wants to shield my niece from negative/hurtful influence. That's her motive. I doubt she wants to move or teach her about different places and people. :D
I like the way you are doing it. I would love to do the same with my children.
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parents spending extra time with a kid can't replace time spent socializing with peers. at least that is what i think..
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Homeschooling your kids doesnt mean they will have poor social skills or will not be as well socialized as other children. Socialization doesnt just take place in a classroom. I have met different kids who are homeschooled and they are all outgoing, confident, dynamic etc. They know how to interact with people of different ages, both children and adults, because they dont just spend the majority of their time with kids their own age. They dont just sit at home alone all day, they go out on trips, do activities, and also participate in different group activities, like sport teams etc. Many homeschooling parents also develop a network with others in their community, and they get together from time to time for field trips, activities etc. Anyways my point is that just because a child is homeschooled doesnt mean they will never get a chance to develop social skills and will end up socially awkward for the rest of their life
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^@ Queer- Agreed. It is very important.
That brings me to another question: are private schools any better? perhaps a better alternative to homeschooling?
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Homeschooling your kids doesnt mean they will have poor social skills or will not be as well socialized as other children. Socialization doesnt just take place in a classroom. I have met different kids who are homeschooled and they are all outgoing, confident, dynamic etc. They know how to interact with people of different ages, both children and adults, because they dont just spend the majority of their time with kids their own age. They dont just sit at home alone all day, they go out on trips, do activities, and also participate in different group activities, like sport teams etc. Many homeschooling parents also develop a network with others in their community, and they get together from time to time for field trips, activities etc. Anyways my point is that just because a child is homeschooled doesnt mean they will never get a chance to develop social skills and will end up socially awkward for the rest of their life
But how much they socialize entirely depends on the parents. So can't be true for all homeschooled children..
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about home schooling .. 2 things matter the most.
Some parents have such odd schedules that involves lots of traveling and what not, they prefer home schooling as its more flexible than the other option.
It also depends which school district you live in. If I live in a bad school district, I would go for private schooling, but if I cant afford it, I would go for home schooling.
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in my opinion public schooling is better in all ways........having said that home schooling is a tough job even more difficult than a 9-5 full time job and I salute those parents who do this for their children.
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about home schooling .. 2 things matter the most.
Some parents have such odd schedules that involves lots of traveling and what not, they prefer home schooling as its more flexible than the other option.
It also depends which school district you live in. If I live in a bad school district, I would go for private schooling, but if I cant afford it, I would go for home schooling.
What's a bad school district like? How do you measure it?
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What's a bad school district like? How do you measure it?
rankings are available on websites.
On face, it depends upon the over all performance of kids ..
in reality, you dont want to send your kids to school where kids of 'certain' ethnic backgrounds come.
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^tsk tsk, That’s racist…
Ok, there’s some truth to this I agree. I didn’t know there were ratings available. My sister lives in a middle upperclass area so I don’t think there should be that issue.
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yeaa.....Raise sheltered kids who are mama's boys/girls......... who miss out on social life and skills..........bleh...
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and that's what I am afraid of. My niece is just 3 and she is already so sensitive. But on the other hand, kids are really mean and it takes a toll on children no matter how smart they are. My sisters never did well in school because they were bullied. It was so hard on them that instead of finishing high school they opted for the GED. My younger sister just graduated with a 4.0 GPA. The youngest one is still in college. So having seen them suffer from bullying to this extent, it really makes me want to root for homeschooling.
You and your sister are too paranoid about bullying. I think bullying can never be the only reason for a poorly performing kid in school.
Only in ghetto areas of America it might be hard to deal with bullying. Otherwise in majority of schools they have zero tolerance policy against bullying and where they do not have zero tolerance they have systems in place to deal with it.
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What's a bad school district like? How do you measure it?
It's quite easy actually, you look at the grades and ratings of a school and visit to meet teachers and students.