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^@ Queer- Agreed. It is very important.
That brings me to another question: are private schools any better? perhaps a better alternative to homeschooling?
Private schools are too expensive for some parents but they can be good alternative to homeschooling. Homeschooling families are usually big families so the kid grow up playing with her/his siblings, but for one or two kids home education might not be ideal.
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You and your sister are too paranoid about bullying. I think bullying can never be the only reason for a poorly performing kid in school. **Only in ghetto areas of America it might be hard to deal with bullying. **Otherwise in majority of schools they have zero tolerance policy against bullying and where they do not have zero tolerance they have systems in place to deal with it.
That is so not true. We all went to suburban schools. I have reasons to be believe that they are way meaner, more impacting, than the kids in the ghetto. They say some of the cruelest things to other kids. As for my younger sisters, I already said this they were bullied to the point they quit school. They never told us why they were skipping school so much. It was only afterwards that my sisters told me what they were going through. I can't believe some of the things they told me. It makes me cry to this day. Bullying is a big issue and it's not seen as a real issue among desis unfortunately. A lot of kids just don't have it in them to deal with it. I and my older sister weren't bullied like my younger sisters were. Not even close..
I am not paranoid. Bullying wreaks havoc on teenagers' self esteem and self-worth. If I could shield my children from that, I would take any measure. My older sister however is NOT Worried about bullying behavior of some kids. She is more worried about shielding her from bad influence.
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My older sister however is NOT Worried about bullying behavior of some kids. She is more worried about shielding her from bad influence.
You cannot raise human kids in a cocoon. That is why I have this thing against sending kids to full time Islamic schools in USA or any Western country.
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You cannot raise human kids in a cocoon. That is why I have this thing against sending kids to full time Islamic schools in USA or any Western country.
People equating homeschooling with raising in a cocoon, that's a big misconception about home education.
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People equating homeschooling with raising in a cocoon, that's a big misconception about home education.
I know about all models of home schooling . I still think it is like raising kids in a cocoon. I want them to be immunized from bad influences not shield them from those influences as at some stage of their lives they will get exposed to them .
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I know about all models of home schooling . I still think it is like raising kids in a cocoon. I want them to be immunized from bad influences not shield them from those influences as at some stage of their lives they will get exposed to them .
You know my 7 years old boy who's never been to school nor does he watch news or ads often asks questions about smoking and wine and crimes. Point is kids don't have to be part of a group of 30-40 kids in a room to know about these things.
Interestingly enough, most schools have the same pattern as prisons. :D
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Which is better?
My sister wants to home school my niece and I understand why but I can't help but feel sorry for my niece. She has no siblings and she barely sees anyone besides her parents' faces 24/7. My sister is somewhat conservative, stirct, and religious.
I do like the idea of home schooling when I see how kids are bullied in schools and their self-worth is drained by mean kids. Has any of you parents tried both? Which works better?
Homeschooling your kids doesnt mean they will have poor social skills or will not be as well socialized as other children. Socialization doesnt just take place in a classroom. I have met different kids who are homeschooled and they are all outgoing, confident, dynamic etc. They know how to interact with people of different ages, both children and adults, because they dont just spend the majority of their time with kids their own age. They dont just sit at home alone all day, they go out on trips, do activities, and also participate in different group activities, like sport teams etc. Many homeschooling parents also develop a network with others in their community, and they get together from time to time for field trips, activities etc. Anyways my point is that just because a child is homeschooled doesnt mean they will never get a chance to develop social skills and will end up socially awkward for the rest of their life
I think home schooling can work IF it's like this.....
but otherwise...from what you've said, it doesnt' sound like a very good idea. I think if parents can do a good job of instilling morals and values...and self esteem in their kids..kids can overcome the typical bullying they face in school..
in reality, you dont want to send your kids to school where kids of 'certain' ethnic backgrounds come.
Lol that's racist! but I see what you mean. My friend who has kids tells me that when she went to a school meeting (over something not even too important but a routine meeting) the auditorium was packed...whereas when she went to a meeting for another school, very few parents were there.
guess which ethnicities they all were.
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Lol that's racist! but I see what you mean. .
I know it is, but I am not putting any race down, I am just removing myself from them
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Young kids learn so much from their peers, you simply cannot underestimate this aspect. It speeds up their development in all sorts of way. My nephew was a very shy and sensitive baby, but ever since he started going to school, he's MashAllah transformed into such confident and creative little fella. Its so wonderful to see him 'man up' lol. He loves talking and he always has so much to talk about, hearing all about his school adventures has to be the most anticipated and favourite part of my sister's day.
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:k: Mashallah.
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Young kids learn so much from their peers, you simply cannot underestimate this aspect. It speeds up their development in all sorts of way. My nephew was a very shy and sensitive baby, but ever since he's started going to school, he MashAllah transformed into such confident and creative little fella. Its so wonderful to see him 'man up' lol. He loves talking and he always has so much to talk about, hearing all about his school adventures has to be the most anticipated and favourite part of my sister's day.
Same can be said about younger kid learning from older sibling/s....in HE you have many other options to take your kids out to meet other kids and families, both my older kids go to Judo weekly and middle one has an interest in cricket so he'll be joining a cricket club soon where he can interact with other kids.
I believe, as a parent you can do so much for your kid with or without schooling. Even school going kids' parents have to take a lot of interest in their children's studies to get them good grades.
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i agree with you…totally…
but you know you are wrong …right 
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A lot of it comes down to money as well, if you don't have enough you'd never be able to teach your child horse riding, pottery, carpentry, music tuitions, and visits to different countries on yearly basis. :/
So consider your child lucky if he's born in a rich family.
Oh but in desi families it's all about getting good grades, innit!
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and if you arent rich, aren't schools a cheap and easily accessible way of exposing your child to all those things?
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Really we shouldn't be overly paranoid of bullying, you can't let the fear get your heads and dictate the lives of people around you. Honestly the kind of bullying that takes place in HE can easily happen at workplace also, (in different forms and ways), how long you gonna shelter yourself from mean and nasty people? There's no escape, they're all around you. We live in a big bad tough world, mummy and daddy can't spoon feed you for your whole life. We've all been bullied here and there in our lives, but looking back and honestly speaking I really think bullying has made me a stronger person!
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and if you arent rich, aren't schools a cheap and easily accessible way of exposing your child to all those things?
Schools don't teach this stuff, unless you're paying 1000s of £s every year, and even with money, if you're not Christian and don't have any connections with a church and priest, they put you on a waiting list. That's how it works here in UK, hence major class differences.
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Really we shouldn't be overly paranoid of bullying, you can't let the fear get your heads and dictate the lives of people around you. Honestly the kind of bullying that takes place in HE can easily happen at workplace also, (in different forms and ways), how long you gonna shelter yourself from mean and nasty people? There's no escape, they're all around you. We've all been bullied here and there in our lives, but looking back and honestly speaking I really think bullying has made me a stronger person!
Sure it can happen anywhere, in fact, much more chances of getting stabbed or shot in a ghetto school of ghetto area of London or America.
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It might be a personal preference thing too, I was a nerd so I used to love going to school, so I could do well and the teacher would acknowledge me as the best amongst my peers, it was a really good feeling. But my parents had no social life, so had i not gone to school, I wouldn't have had any interaction with other kids. I'd also miss out on having friends, because I used to look forward to school everyday so I could talk to them about whatever was on my mind, siblings are fine but they're not the same as friends.
I guess just like everything else in life the more diverse your experiences the more chance you have of being able to handle anything thrown at you. School is an opportunity where you're exposed to a lot of diversity. You can be if you're home schooled too I think but the parents would have to actively try and expose their kids to different people and activities which is obviously a lot more difficult than sending your kid to school.
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Sure it can happen anywhere, in fact, much more chances of getting stabbed or shot in a ghetto school of ghetto area of London or America.
Do you live in a ghetto?
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It might be a personal preference thing too, I was a nerd so I used to love going to school, so I could do well and the teacher would acknowledge me as the best amongst my peers, it was a really good feeling. But my parents had no social life, so had i not gone to school, I wouldn't have had any interaction with other kids. I'd also miss out on having friends, because I used to look forward to school everyday so I could talk to them about whatever was on my mind, siblings are fine but they're not the same as friends.
I guess just like everything else in life the more diverse your experiences the more chance you have of being able to handle anything thrown at you. School is an opportunity where you're exposed to a lot of diversity. You can be if you're home schooled too I think but the parents would have to actively try and expose their kids to different people and activities which is obviously a lot more difficult than sending your kid to school.
It depends on your child as well, see parents have to consider their childrens' interests too. I have a friend and she homeschooled her daughter till the age of 6 but the girl wanted to go to school so her mom put her in a school.