Re: Holding Qur’an over brides head?
The saying/quote is based on the qualities of memorising it. Pakistan produces some of the finest Imams. It seems that you have some sort of negativity ingrained to dismiss anything positive in Islam. Reading the Quran itself brings a lot of suwaab. That is enough to learn and recite it. Besides most Quraans now have multi translations. Not perfect but certainly ideal to get a gist.
Your issue is cultural which is fair enough. It depends on families. If you have married into such a family you have to respect their ways or be straight up and dismiss them and that has nothing to do with Islam.