i always try to spend most of my time with him
i try to complete all my kitchen & other activities beforehe comes from office so we can spend most time together and its always facinate me his company bcz it is the fact and i say it is the biggest truth of my life that
Yes, complete everything before he comes home so all your attention is on him.
that I LOVE HIM.....i love him as he is i only want to bring him on right and never want to lose him
ok....last night we have a detail conversation on this topic and as most members advise me to ask him ''what he want?
he replied''nothing''
he is looking very depresssd and insisting me to close this topic this will never repeat again and say sory
and frnds! an intresting thing is that he made my account on paklinks giving me the name of cooliies bcz i mostly visited this site and he make me a member of it
but he never has thaught that i'll use it for this purpose
i m thinking to see him all ur replays because u guys give so much good responce and meterial that can correct him if hi think
but then i reject this idea as he can become proud bcz i admitted that he is caring 'loving 'responsible etc....
any way thanks all of u for giving me so nice advises and realising me that it is a serious prblm
i'll try ignore his act
i also need ur good wishes
This issue is not going to be solved in one conversation or one day. If he's depressed than it's going to take him time to open up and share his weakness with you. Don't start thinking that he doesn't love you and that's why he's not sharing his problem. It's going to take time and effort from your end. Like Diya said, it maybe an addiction, but every addiction can be broken.
So at this point all I can recommend is spend lots of quality time with him, go on some family vacation, and without words make him feel like you will NEVER judge him for his actions so he can tell you anything and everything.
All this advice is based on a one-sided story, so only you can know both sides and be the best judge on what should be done.
u r right diya & gaia it can be a adiction bcz after our ingagement the period of 2 years we spend most of our time texting each other
often the whole night we spent sending sms each other may b he is missing that time bcz i also missing the days it seems that they r the beautifull days of my life
the thing that i forget to mention that when i caught him last time he is chating on yahoo with his mbl not through sms and i think that he does't even know her name
and i never see any sms of his female coleagues that cross the limit or i dislike it but his trying to hidden it to me make me angry
it only happens on chating he uses the words dear janoo etc...
but this is also not fear
If he already knows that you visit this site and he's the one who made your account...maybe you should show him this thread so he can see how most of the readers think he is a disgusting, hypocritical, selfish, jahannumi who doesn't love you and more importantly has no regard for his children. people on here telling you to spend more time with him: HELLOO there's 2 kids in the picture, who need her attention waaayyy more so they don't turn out to be equally as jaahil and kameena as him.
seriously, do you work? if not, do you have a degree so you can maybe start looking for a job? yeah its great to try and save your relationship, but judging by his behaviour, I pray you have some back-up money, property, etc somewhere so you are atleast free to leave his sorry ass if you want to so you can be the happy, healthy, nurturing mother that your kids need you to be.
A fan can not be moved for long with a stick, because the moment you remove the stick, it would stop. It would move only in your presence and stop the moment you leave the room. You need to generate the electricity of love and sincerity in him through the ways of your IDEAL. If successful, it would keep moving consistently even in your absence, for ever, in the right direction.
Love can't be achieved through anger/hatred. But with sincerity, patience prayers and efforts in the right direction, Allah (swt) changes the hearts of people for you.
it is very hurting pkgr the words u used for my husband
even i faces the situation and getting through it but i never even think as u...
after all he is my husband he provides me shelter and a good life he struggle for me and my children and try his best for our comfort
he also try to help me in all other activities
as r.a.w says Allah show him rightdirection
your thinking is good ... keep it this way - this shows you are trying very hard to make the marriage work
you will read a whole spectrum of opinions on the forum the wisdom is to act if necessary on the right one
it is very hurting pkgr the words u used for my husband
even i faces the situation and getting through it but i never even think as u...
after all he is my husband he provides me shelter and a good life he struggle for me and my children and try his best for our comfort
he also try to help me in all other activities
as r.a.w says Allah show him rightdirection