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i don't understand how you are letting this mofo get away with this so easily. if you wont get angry at this, who will? take a knife, rip at the crotch of hubbyjaanu's fav pajama's right in front of him. and tell him, next time i see an sms, you'll be wearing these when i do that.
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thanks every one for responce... i was thinking that most members reply me that this is not serious and its like a trend.i have no close frnd no sister to share these things also i dont want to make my husbend 'sharminda'even befor his parents mirch i'll work on ur idea also 's khan' i have the personality which a husband desirs(inner outer both) my husband is also good looking and we r from isb
my husband is also my frst cousin and very religious in this july we went for UMRAH together ALHAMDOLILLAH.....but these kind of acts hurt me i realize after ur replies that he never loves me he just burden the relation
Um...he is not religious at all. People who have Allah swt in their **heart **do not act like this. He is actually a pretty stubborn man who can't correct himself even after going to Umrah.
What Mirch said was very smart...you love him...find a way to get him off that phone.
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im so much confused what to do some members advise me to get angry on this and some r opposite....
the fact is that i cant live without my children more i m now again 24 weeks preg...
i think he will never come on right way and continue to deceive me
i m now very care full..he is also looking regret on what happend but'aik bar ka azmaya bar bar azmaya nahi jata'some thing like this or me to bohat bar dassi ja chukki hon
what happend if i start same chit chat with one of his frnd....why we girls dont revenge with our husands for a lesson
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When did you guys took your last family vacation...just curious.
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serious note: He’s missing something in this relationship, and so are you. Go spend some more time with hubby, and like D6c just mentioned, a family vacation will do you both good.
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Now you’re just getting jisbathi (sp?). Ask him straight up what he wants out of this relationship. Does he need spice? Change? Whatever it is give it to him. This will not only please him but also bring you BOTH together.
Why not plan a spicy date with him? Basically, make him feel like a king, and he wont be going anywhere 
And get a babysitter. You and hubby need alone time, like NOW.
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Hopelessness from Allah (swt) is forbidden in Islam. HE has the control over the hearts of people. HE doesn't reject the sincere tears of one person for the guidance of another. Keep praying.
Anger is not good because (according to a hadith) the devil claims that when a person is angry, he is in full control of the devil, and the devil runs in his veins like blood, so the devil can make him do anything (destructive) that the devil wants from him.
No matter how much a man is attracted to other women, he still loves his own children. Get his children in, and use them to distract him from this sin. They should pray for him a lot, tell him from time to time that they love him and he is their ideal whose foot steps they want to follow in life.
It's not the problem we are facing that matters, but our attitude towards it.
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Yo beauty! how is that suppose to happen. I think she would like to know what exactly she should do. Step by step process please..
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he desont luv u
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bizarre
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I kinda agree with this, spend more time together as husband and wife. Your husband seems to be lonely and wants attention.
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I think you should at least try your best from your end.
Insaan ko koshish to karni chahiye na? You need to make an effort from your end...even though I don't like your husband I have to agree with Gaia.
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Pure and impure can't live together. A wife can't spark her pure love in the heart that has been intoxicated with the dirt for the forbidden lust. First the heart needs to be washed in order to make room for your pure love.
For solving a problem one needs to know the cause of it. Where did the dirty feelings (illegal attraction) come from ?
Dirt first enters the eyes to reach the mind, where it develops immoral imaginations. Then from mind it reaches heart where it develops immoral feelings. Then that heart insists the mind to think of ideas in order to fulfill those feelings. The rest of the body parts follow the orders in accordance to the plans prepared by the mind.
In order to purify the heart, our religion has given us different medicines through the 4 doors that lead to the heart. 1. Eyes (Tears of repentance and watching Quran while reciting it). 2. Ears (listening to the stories of the prophets in Quran to develop feelings of obedience of Allah in the heart). 3. Mind (thinking of the possible consequences of ones actions in this life and hereafter). 4. Tongue (encouraging good, discouraging bad). Even starting with one door would inshaAllah spark an urge for the remaining medicines of Quran and Sunnah.
Unless one doesn't clean the heart through these four doors, one is wasting time and getting closer to the disaster in this life and hereafter (Allah forbid)
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:halo: you don’t even know her husband and you hate him.
Colii. Truth is you should have serious talk with your husband. Ask him and listen to him what he has to say and then set your limits on him.
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Be polite because sweet talk is magical. An Advice having the smell of love and humbleness is easily understood even by the worst enemies, but the advice that smells anger/hatred would not be digested even by the best friend ever. Take time out of the whole day to recite Quran together because:
An old American Muslim lived on a farm in the mountains of eastern Kentucky with his young grandson. Each morning Grandpa was up early sitting at the kitchen table reading his Qur'an. His grandson wanted to be just like him and tried to imitate him in every way he could.
One day the grandson asked, "Grandpa, I try to read the Qur'an just like you but I don't understand it, and what I do understand I forget as soon as I close the book. What good does reading the Qur'an do?"
The Grandfather quietly turned from putting coal in the stove and replied, "Take this coal basket down to the river and bring me back a basket of water." The boy did as he was told, but all the water leaked out before he got back to the house. The grandfather laughed and said, "You'll have to move a little faster next time," and sent him back to the river with the basket to try again. This time the boy ran faster, but again the basket was empty before he returned home. Out of breath, he told his grandfather that it was impossible to carry water in a basket, and he went to get a bucket instead. The old man said, "I don't want a bucket of water, I want a basket of water. You're just not trying hard enough," and he went out the door to watch the boy try again. At this point, the boy knew it was impossible, but he wanted to show his grandfather that even if he ran as fast as he could, the water would leak out before he got back to the house. The boy again dipped the basket into river and ran hard, but when he reached his grandfather the basket was again empty. Out of breath, he said, "See Grandpa, it's useless!". "So you think it is useless?" The old man said, "Look at the basket." The boy looked at the basket and for the first time realized that the basket was different. It had been transformed from a dirty old coal basket and was now clean, inside and out.
"Son, that's what happens when you read the Qur'an. You might not understand or remember everything, but when you read it, you will be changed, inside and out. That is the work of Allah in our lives."
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A simple divorce.
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Aauzu Billahi Minash-Shaitanir Rajeem
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i always try to spend most of my time with him
i try to complete all my kitchen & other activities beforehe comes from office so we can spend most time together and its always facinate me his company bcz it is the fact and i say it is the biggest truth of my life that
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that I LOVE HIM.....i love him as he is i only want to bring him on right and never want to lose him
ok....last night we have a detail conversation on this topic and as most members advise me to ask him ''what he want?
he replied''nothing''
he is looking very depresssd and insisting me to close this topic this will never repeat again and say sory
and frnds! an intresting thing is that he made my account on paklinks giving me the name of cooliies bcz i mostly visited this site and he make me a member of it
but he never has thaught that i'll use it for this purpose
i m thinking to see him all ur replays because u guys give so much good responce and meterial that can correct him if hi think
but then i reject this idea as he can become proud bcz i admitted that he is caring 'loving 'responsible etc....
any way thanks all of u for giving me so nice advises and realising me that it is a serious prblm
i'll try ignore his act
i also need ur good wishes
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Sounds like an addiction ! Think it's become a habit ... I do think he still loves you.
Like most people have suggested I think you really need to just talk things out, explain how you feel and get him to promise you he'll never do such things again. Dua, the most powerful weapon of the believer... Pray that Allah leads your husband back on the right path and that he stops doing what his doing. You are not alone, Allah is always there with you... You're doing your part by talking to him with that pray that Allah leads him back on the right path. InshaAllah, he won't indulge in such activities again. Stay positive, all the best.