Hitting a kid. What do you believe?

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  1. Are you against hitting kids?

  2. If yes, does that mean no form of it (such as spanking) is allowed?

  3. If no, to what extent do you / will you go?

  4. Were you hit during your childhood? What are your feelings about those times if you were hit? Did it work? Did it bruise your ego as a child?

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Re: Hitting a kid. What do you believe?

**YES, you can't teach anything by using violence as tool. u can teach kids more with love and care

NO, i was NEVER EVER hit by my elders but i saw other kids beat up by their parents, elder brothers. i hated it then and i hate it now.
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No, A slap should be suffice or a couple depends what kind of mood I am in..

I was hit, yes. If I did something wrong I knew it was coming but funny thing is I did some crazy things and I didn't get hit but did little things and got some beatings. It made me a better person because the beatings were just a symbolic gesture to show me it is wrong. The real learning curve is when your parents teach you right from wrong. That is when you truly learn, understand, believe right from wrong.

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i don’t condone hitting your kid AT ALL. maybe like a little smack on the bottom if they’re not understanding pyaar se, but not in front of anyone.

but i was given a few chittars, however in my mothers defence, i was an extremely naughty kid :blush: stuff like pulling pranks and peeing myself as an act of revenge. :blush:

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A smack on the face if they're acting like a brat should be enough. I don't think you should ever beat a child to the point where they are injured/wounded. A beating should not result in any physical marks on a child's body or the child suffering from anything more fleeting pain.

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on the face? :O i dont think thats a good idea

esp since butts are like so perfect to smack?

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I am totally against smacking someone on face, a smack on the bottom is more than enough.

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tlk, are you my unknown multi bro?

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^ let me smack your cute little bottom for saying this.

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tells a lot :eek:

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Excessive beatings are never good, but some form of hitting has to be there. I got hit as a kid, never the injury causing type beatings but the type that made me a shareef bacha :blush:. There’s a fine line between disciplining and too much disciplining, you cross that and your beatings will backfire and make the kid even more stubborn and ‘dheet’. I’ve seen it happen with some families, their brats get so used to beatings that it fails to act as a deterrent.

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its the fear of ‘being hit’ that works..not the hitting itself…:chai:

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^True that but your parenting is more powerful when you are able to control the kid without the threat of physical repercussion still am not aware of what that may Be or look like though.

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Im pretty sure I got some hits when I was a kid but nothing serious, and it stopped when I turned 11 or so.

It was the emotional blackmail that really killed me :(

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What's wrong with a thappar? I've gotten many when I was little but I don't consider that physical abuse. :p

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A slap on the bottom is often handed out to midget.... Aswell as on the hand.... This is in extreme cases...and NEVER out of frustration...i keep my voice level... But i eant him to understand just how bad a thing he did or how dangerous... Bad thing= slap on butt, dangerous thing= slap on hand.

If u r beating ure kid up out of frustration, or cuz u are annoyed, then its never gonna work and ure not doing it right.... It wont teach them anything.

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I am totally against hitting kids and I am pretty serious about it. Why hit a kid? Just because you can and they can not retaliate?

Sorry to say but most of the moms who are OK with smacking one and two will bring the sky down if their husband hit them for repeating some mistake. You expect 4-5 years old to not repeat a mistake (and smack one if they do for better 'tarbiyat') but grown up can repeat the mistake and still get away with it (because they know how to retaliate).

I am not advocating that hitting wife or adults should be fine but I am advocating that for the same reason, kids should not be hit. They have self respect too.

In fact in initial days we (me and wife) had quite a lot of heated argument about it because for her smack on the bottom was on. Sometimes she just used to lose it in moment of heat. Now she is controlling it not because of anything else but just because kids have now grown up and know how to call 911.

I have seen many kids who have grown up OK and did well without getting a beating when they were kids (including myself). So "oh its necessary for their training" is nothing but a crap. It simply means, that parent is in-competent to learn other ways to teach. There are many non-physical punishments that works but then they need more involvements from parents, so for parents, easy way out is hit....hit...

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Hitting a kid is just... wrong. It backfires at the end of the day, because a beating will only make them stubborn.

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I was never hit or yelled at while growing up..In fact I have never seen my parents raising their voice ever whether it was an argument between them or if something wrong was done by us sisters... BUT we were very very afraid of our mom showing us the "eye" that meant you are in big trouble and we never crossed that line to even know what big trouble it could be!!!

I dunno how I will be with my kids but I dun think hitting ever works.. we will not even go that route or consider than as an option!

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If u are beating ure kid day in and day out.... Its not gonna work....

And i dont think anyone would agree that beating a kid is ok....

Im all for a smack on the butt though