I'm sure I must have been smacked at least once but I can't remember to be honest. I totally agree with Decent6Chora.
What I find really strange is that in the uk smacking/spanking/beating your child is not illegal (as long as you don't leave a mark), I could slap my child and my child can't do a thing. But if I was to slap an adult (who would be in a better position to defend themselves than a child) I could be charged with assault and end up with a criminal record.
I did smack my neice when she was 2 on the hand a few years ago, she looked up at me with a really sad face and said 'aunty, smack', I had to leave the room and started crying, a shiver goes down my spine whenever I remember that moment.
What's wrong with a thappar? I've gotten many when I was little but I don't consider that physical abuse. :p
on the face? :s there can be a few reasons for this.. one, your butt wasnt worthy enough. two, your face rivaled your butt. ahh shame on me for making a joke out of this. :\ slap on the face seems pretty demeaning somehow..
I was never even yelled at..let alone hit when i was a child. My mom just used to give us that evil stare and we would behave. There are other ways to control a child, let them know their boundaries and a naughty corner in the house where the child has to sit alone if he/she does something inappropriate always helps.
I find a lot wrong with thappar. I did get hit as a kid but it always to the buttock with a flimsy jooti (Mum ). I guess four guys in one family trample on the parents’ nerves a bit too much. Anyway thappars, I hate them, there is no need to humiliate someone with that. I went to this private school for a few months in 1st grade and there was a Pakistani Islamic Studies teacher, I didn’t do the homework one day and she ****ing slapped me. That *****. It hurt and it was humiliating, and I was only 5. My mum gave her a right earful and took me out of that school soon after. That’s the only time I’ve been slapped in my life (although I have been punched).
Hahaha as a Child I was always getting beaten about, my elders and betters treated me as anything from experimental guinea pig to human puch bag… :faris:
I had a really rough childhood by any standards it was rough as hell… I remember once or twice being beaten close to death… not exactly by relatives all the time but by everyone who thought they had rights to push a kid about… to be honest I was an urchin myself but I did not know better.
That said I pray fervently never to have to raise a hand to my own offspring… I have my own children now and will do all I can to spare them the horrors I had to put up with… the day I have to be really angry with them I have a new tactic I will just ignore them until they feel sorry for me…
I dont believe in ever hitting a child and deep down I’m soft with my own fammily anf friends… I could beat the pulp out of anything I see as a threat and I happily look for challengers on a weekly basis but I cant ever stand up to my own side… I would rather shoot mysel first than raise a hand to my child.
I think when you beat a child you lose some of the magic between you… I dont want my Children to fear me… I want them to be happy and proud of me…
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Back with my input. I'm strongly against slapping/hitting on the face. It's humiliating. Parents often think children don't have a sense of self-respect or ego. Actually, I should rather say they are not even aware children may have pride too. It does a lot of damage.
Oh and never never in front of outsiders. That's the worst.
Hmm, whenever I was slapped by my parents as a child, it never left any sort of mark or pain. And it never came across my mind to tell anyone about it because I knew that if I told a teacher for example, she’d call the Child Care Authorities who’d then take my parents away from me. I certainly didn’t want that to happen.
Different parents..different methods. It doesn’t mean that my parents were any less competent than yours.
My parents never hit me in front of others.
But I don’t get what damage one thappar would do to a child’s entire life?
well its not so much the hitting thats the deterrent but the disapproval thatt radiates from the beatings. My dad never laid a finger on me while my mom did. Dad would just express sadness to whatever I did. Turns out I wouldnt do something out of fear of saddening my dad more than my moms wrath (shes ace with projectiles). My bro on the other hand....my dad would out his hand on my bros cheek and smack his own hand...yet my brother would still burst into tears. Worked better than many kids that were flat eaten thappared at every wrongdoing. Ive only seen parents hit when theyre frustrated and even as a kid i used to wonder why they were taking frustrations out on kids. It definitely DOES NOT translate well, and more to the point, there are better methods.
). I guess four guys in one family trample on the parents’ nerves a bit too much. Anyway thappars, I hate them, there is no need to humiliate someone with that. I went to this private school for a few months in 1st grade and there was a Pakistani Islamic Studies teacher, I didn’t do the homework one day and she ****ing slapped me. That *****. It hurt and it was humiliating, and I was only 5. My mum gave her a right earful and took me out of that school soon after. That’s the only time I’ve been slapped in my life (although I have been punched).
