Re: His sister
I don’t mean to give you a hard time; I’ve been in that situation and I have to say your approach to this was not mature. I’m a pretty introverted individual but I knew the guy meant a lot to me and if I wanted it to work I would have to do something about it even if it made me weak in the knees. His sister was more of the listener than talker which I am too, but I stepped out of what is the norm for me and started a conversation and you know what 5 minutes into it was not bad at all, it was actually so much fun because she told me many cute stories from their childhood. When you saw her you should have approached her what would she that think, you like her brother, oh not that’s so bad! It makes me cringe how some desi girls totally have the “bhabi syndrome” it makes no sense at all, and you know what you end up coming across as being snooty.
For the people who are actually telling you to bring him into this, erm okay that’s such lame advice. Please don’t drag him into this, trust me that will put him in an awkward position, do you really want to him to pick and chose, your only setting yourself up to get hurt and making the situation more complicated (immature is more like it), your relationship is too raw right now for him to start defending you, especially since you are equally at fault. If you ever want to see the demise of a relationship than put the guy in a situation where it’s you versus his family, NOT GOOD! You are both grown individuals you can resolve this on your own. Call her up and tell her you were nervous and perhaps that nervousness conveyed that you were uninterested or rude. Don’t let a perfectly good guy get way because you two were too busy playing hide in seek. Don’t let the “bhabi pride” get the best of you, man you still have to meet the mama/ loads of aunties what are you going to do than?