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Given what you wrote above, I would strongly urge you to NOT try for a baby until things improve. A baby will only add stress to the relationship and if this is how you’re feeling now…I can’t even imagine how it will be while you’re dealing with pregnancy/recovering from delivery and dealing with a newborn. Not to mention a baby will also add to your expenses. We have delayed this for quite awhile, but we both feel that we are now ready. And yes I realize it will be hard especially if I go on mat leave. We are not prepared to survive on a single income, but are hoping for the best.
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How is your finances set up? As someone else mentioned, will your husband not agree to setting up a specific way to doing thing? For example, set up a savings account and jointly agree that BOTH of you will put a certain % or X amount of money in that account every paycheck. Even with this house situation…how much is HE contributing towards it? You keep saying that you are saving for the house…does HE want to buy a house too? A house generally increases expenses when it come to bills, decorating/furnishing, and general maintenance. Does he realize this? We live on his income and mine goes into our “house fund”. He won’t accept that we are capable of saving from his salary…don’t ask why, because I have no idea. Our rental is quite well furnished so we won’t have to buy too much stuff if we buy a house
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Is there an elder, family friend, one of his friends…ANYONE who can talk to him about this to knock some sense into him? Only people I would truct enough to confide in are our parents, and I don’t want to worry them about this. I would like to resolve this internally if we can. GS is awesome because of the anonymity 