Re: His Money / My Money
I think a lot of people are getting derailed here. The initial thread was started by OP like 6 months ago which is when there was the issue of loaning money to parents. We need to focus on post 27](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=27) for the current discussion.
OP clearly stated she does not have a problem with her husband sending money to his parents regularly. The current issues are that he’s giving money to all cousins, brother’s wife, the wife’s sisters etc. And this is a young couple who haven’t bought a house and obviously have talked about starting a family…yet he’s making financial promises to people when he knows he does not have the money in his account.
I think beyond the actual money giving part…the #1](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=1) problem is that the husband is acting like he’s single. He is making major financial decisions without even discussing it with his wife or taking into account the needs of his own family (ie. his wife/future child). Again, the problem is not that he’s helping his parents…problem is that he’s giving money to EVERYONE. Once parents are taken care of…husband’s focus should be saving for his own family’s future, making sure he/his wife/future children will be ok if he loses his job, has a health crisis etc. Yet none of that seems to be his concern.