His Money / My Money

[pak2015]

Re: His Money / My Money

@BellaShabba

Everyone can say people become selfish with the whole his money vs my money but in the OP’s case its not her responsibility to be bailing her husband out constantly while he chucks his money around. Helping parents is a different ball game thats his responsibility as their child and if she wants to help thats fine.

My hubby earns well mashallah but is rubbish at money management so i manage it. However we have a clear rule he manages the household bills and I do the saving and pay for and days out etc. what he gives to his mum i dont ask and none of my business really as long as i can see rent utilities etc all paid.

That said its not a case of where we wont help each other out. There was a time i was jobless after marriage so he paid my bills i had cc and phone bill etc and if theres a shortage for some reason or another il help him out

But OP honestly if youre guna save flr that hojse u cant keep dishing ur savings out. Or simply keep saving and refuse to buy until u can see more stabilitiy in the way ur hubby manages his money.

Having a kid and house etc is a big responsibility so make sure you make him understand he needs to stop “helping” everyone out for the sake of it. Whats the worse theyl say? Hes kanjoos. Big deal. Rather that then be broke

Yeah he shouldn’t be wasting money on outsiders (friends and extended family), but it sounds like it isnt a 50-50 split of expensives between husband and wife–he basically uses his money to pay for all bills, spends his money on his wife to give her a lavish lifestyle, trips and vacations and doesn’t let her spend her money. If you want to keep count, it sounds like he’s easily spent over $15,000 on her. He’s essentially asking for a loan from her and the girls are saying you don’t have to give it to him. Of course she doesn’t have to, but it’s extremely selfish. He seems like the type of decent guy who wouldn’t say a word and would happily offer to give his own money to help the girls parents out if that time ever came. Can’t just keep taking and taking and when the time comes to give then act all selfish about it and say that’s not my responsibility.

Since you girls like to keep count, why dont you suggest that OP stop using his money and start spending her own money on the lifestyle, vacations and expensive then yes she doesn’t have to spend anything on the guys parents, she’ll have no responsibility to guys family.