Re: His Money / My Money
Peace Siren
You need to establish clear grounds for financing yourselves as a couple who earn money together. Strictly in Islam your money is yours and his belongs to him and all his dependants albeit in varying proportions (and that includes his parents). You can make it easier for him by pledging a part of saving as his right … for example if you have a house fund for a property that you are purchasing and both of your names are signatories - 50:50 if that was the verbal agreement between you, then strictly half of your savings for the house fund has already been donated to your husband.
If he chooses to donate the $15k without your permission then it will come out of his portion, if he donates it with your permission you need to specifically agree that $7.5k of it is coming out of your half. This should be done to protect yourselves from injustices. If it comes out of his portion then you will be the major stakeholder of the property by a difference of $15k until he puts $15k of his money back in (after he has dealt with his dependants) or you forgive him the amount. People should not put guilt trips on you … they have no right to tell how you should be with your own right, but of course to be generous and donating is indeed better for you and Allah (SWT) will reward you greatly, inshaAllah.