Diwana,
Our assumptions about the mother, the son, the poster may or may not be true. I've heard such stories so many times, that to me it's a common place issue......not unusual at all. It doesn't shock me. And out of my agitation for the frequency of this issue...........I did lash out at the mother in my first post in this thread. My post was rash......and while I usually try my best to mention the disclaimer of "Not every person or every situation is like that" in my first response.......I didn't do so in this thread. I did realize my mistake later and include other possibilities.
I still disagree with you about issues being "unusual." Seen/heard/read them so many times that they're ordinary and mundane seeming to me and other desi women. Yes, not everything on TV is to be believed........BUT..........when certain issues are FREQUENTLY shown on TV......it's a reflection of social problems that are prevalent in a society. And these issues that are portrayed in the media will vary from country to country. Compare the shows in Pak to those in the US.....and you'll find differences. The cultures are different......their dynamics are different. Art is a mirror of society.....it aims to connect to the viewer.....and it does that with issues that one can relate to. It's not only limited to TV....but also includes other forms such as books.
I'm not saying that men walk around with their eyes and ears closed. What I'm saying is that our gender shapes our experiences. That's undeniable. Society has created gender roles and expectations.......and while men and women DO have some similarities.......there are some issues that are better understood by one gender than the other.
Yes, there's always the possibility that one is trolling. And there have indeed been some trolls on here. But it seems to me that most of the threads (not all) are in earnest. I've read the poster, Girlie's, first thread. It was created in November of last year. In her former thread, she mentions that the guy has been trying to convince his mother for TWO years.......and in that thread (just like in this one)........the only reason for rejection that she mentions is that she is not the mother's choice. Assuming that this thread is a sincere one...........two years have gone by........and.........MORE THAN TWO MONTHS have gone by since Girlie's last thread.....................and** STILL** she has not come up with any other reason for the mom's refusal. One would think that in two months (the time between this thread and the last) she'd gain a better understanding of his mother's rejection........but it seems this is the only reason. The guy has tried convincing his mom, but to no avail............and he has even suggested that him and the girl elope (not the most mature of options).
This thread reminds me of another thread created a LONG time ago.......where a guy really wanted to marry a girl. His father, sisters, and even all extended family members were okay with the girl he desired to marry. But the problem was the mom. The guy asked his mother soooooo many times to explain why she didn't like the girl..........and the mom wouldn't tell him. He was even asked by the posters to provide reasons for his mother's refusal. But he had no reasons to provide because none were given to him.
***** The guy's (Girlie's Boyfriend) father is deceased. He's being raised only by mom. I'm not saying that this is definitely the case.................BUT..............it could be that the mom feels that as a single parent, she fears she'll be mistreated or replaced or run out by her bahu....since she doesn't have the support of a husband.... and this might be her ONE AND ONLY son. So, she thinks that a girl of her choice....would be more easy to get along with or won't create problems for her in the future (not exactly a guarantee). Yes, it's an assumption. But, I'm basing this on a similar situation I know of. And, I could be wrong. Maybe the reason could be difference in economic status, cultural background, etc. But for now......no other reason (2 years and more than 2 months have gone by) has been provided by the poster.
And assuming that the story is true........it's strange that a guy who has persisted for this girl for more than two years.......has not told the girl about any other reasons for rejection. One would imagine he would tell her..."My mom thinks this, my mom said that, my mom fears this, my mom fears that, etc."
Perhaps the girl's parents might have their reservations about the guy..............IF SO........she hasn't mentioned any. The only thing she has said about her parents in the former thread is that they are not approving of the match because they don't have the approval of the guy's mother. Things obviously won't go any further if there is no consent from the guy's mother and most parents would be apprehensive about sending their daughter to a family where she's not welcome....no matter how compatible her and the BF might be.