Re: Him or Family???
I knew you had a filmy side to you 
you would being from mumbai right?
There would be no problem in an ideal world where barriers of border do not define who we can or cannot marry. Do not blame or guilt yourself his family have been through it. They know this is difficult. He knew you were Indian and he still decided to love you, so donāt blame yourself. He knew that it was going to be a tough road to travel due to the situation of the countries, especially for non-celebs.
If you were a bird no other Indian bird would mind you marrying a Pakistani bird. Or if we lived in British raj at the moment no one would have minded. Your love seems to be at the wrong place and wrong time for people in human āsociety.ā
I am sorry that your love is suffering because of this human imposed borders of the heart.
can you tell us about what happened to your cousin? You said she married a Pakistani guy. Perhaps you can reassure them that things wonāt end up same way. At the end of the day, love both your family and the guy you like, be strong yourself, and have faith that whatever Allah (swt) decides it is for the best. And that your pleas are being listened to and whatever happens is for the best.
You can try reverse psychology and say to your parents you win and i lose (my happiness). Iāll marry whoever you want. Of course youāre not going to but when they see you so sad they might automatically think we shouldnāt do this.
We say this and though there is lot of love on both sides of the border for the other there is also hate. This hate and fear is quite real for the people who express it and it is frightening as it is quite illogical and scary in how the common person, ignorant of the other, can be swept up in it. Or how this stigma of it can sway people from pursuing any sort of relationships. Not just with romantic relationships but with friendships. Gs is quite a lovely place and it wouldnāt really happen here but there are other India-Pakistani forums which get really vicious. I mean look at youtube and the stuff there is atrocious. There are many Indians and Pakistanis who have faced racism from the other side. But the decent ones realise it is only a miniscule minority and they have many more positive examples to counteract it.
I have only one example of a Pakistani girl who said insulting things and who refused to engage with me let alone be friends as I am Indian. Online and in real life, i have made many Pakistani friends, some who i would say are even better than friends i have from India. Even if i had not known any Pakistani people if i thought logically why would they hate me if they watch bollywood, like saris, yoga and like other Indian stuff. Or if I was a Pakistani i would have to think why should i think Indians hate me when Pakistani singers, songs and dramas are a massive hit, or things like roohAfza, shan masala are used commonly by Indians.
I am sure this has been experienced by those on other side as well. Similarly your parents shouldnāt see one example as representative for all Pakistanis/Pakistani guys. There is no guarantee if you marry an Indian guy he will have resolved issues 1-5.
At the same time remember too much belief in pyar, ishq, mohabhat might not be realistic. Never leave your parents for any guy. Parents are generally reliable while guys may not be.
Acha hai. haha and funny 
jst an update on this one 
and shukar!!!..