Hijabi

[yanzala]

Re: Hijabi

@BarbieCue

Yanzala, no one is attacking you for not wanting to shake hands with na-mehrams. I said I totally understand and respect that. My khalu is a religious man and he wouldn’t shake hands even with his pyari pyar bhanjis so I get it.

Next time someone tries to shake hands with you, just smile and say “I don’t mean any disrespect but I prefer not to shake hands with the opposite gender” … They should understand (especially if they’re desis) and not feel offended. Or you can even say salaam in that “adaab” style in response! They’ll get the point!

i am sorry if i sound like i was attacking you. i was not. i am just trying to tell you what i believe in.
and i am definitly doing that next, cuz i did felt bad after shaking hands with that guy, because who ever saw me, and think now that “oh, i know one hijabi who openly shake hand with guyw so it mean it shouldn’t really be a problem”. next time INSHALLAH.

[BarbieCue]

Re: Hijabi

@TLK

correction

pyari pyari and sehtamand bhanjis

No.

[hareem01]

Re: Hijabi

@TLK

Oh yes, smiling at guys would definitely help you passing this message

In Islam smiling is considered charity.

[TLK]

Re: Hijabi

@hareem01

In Islam smiling is considered charity.

were you a philanthropist back in your days?

[hareem01]

Re: Hijabi

@TLK

were you a philanthropist back in your days?

LOL…yeah. I can’t stop smiling whenever I see a stranger. That’s just me.

[TLK]

Re: Hijabi

that’s our hareem :k:

[Doppleganger]

Re: Hijabi

What does hareem mean?

[Khumar]

Re: Hijabi

@yanzala

Thanks for the serious and respectful response. And you r right I should have done that, but even American guys in my classes give certain amount if respect to women who wear hijab so I was a bit surprised that a muslim doesn’t think along those lines.

You’re just making a big deal out of nothing here. He shook your hand, as he has probably done with many other people, men and women included. This isn’t about being a Muslim or a non-Muslim. It’s about what that person is like. There are Muslim huggers out there, and then you have those that will not touch another non-mehram’s hands, regardless of her being a hijabi or non hijabi, Muslim or non-Muslim.

@yanzala

Lol I don’t think he was testing me. He is I guess 4 years younger than me maybe this was one if the reason I didn’t refuse shaking hands with him because in past I have refused to few people (mainly Americans, and I refuse very nicely and made sure they aren’t offended) but that desi guy just took me by surprise. Khair I was just trying to get advice on how I can not go through it again and u guys r right there is nothing I can do other than nicely refusing.

On one hand, shaking hands is bugging you a lot, and on the other isn’t. Weeeeeeeird! Like I said earlier, he’s younger than you, so he doesn’t know everything. You could have just said to him, sorry I don’t shake hands, I hope it’s ok. Or better yet, just had smiled and turned away or something.

because in past I have refused to few people (mainly Americans, and I refuse very nicely and made sure they aren’t offended)

Just because he’s brown you’re that offended? and all of a sudden you have no idea how to deal with such a situation again? He is a person after all, explain to him or anyone else for that matter and I’m sure you would not get into this situation ever again

@fat_spartan

You could have just told him you don’t shake hands with men.

This.

[hareem01]

Re: Hijabi

@Doppleganger

What does hareem mean?

http://dictionary.sensagent.com/harem/en-en/

[TLK]

Re: Hijabi

@hareem01

http://dictionary.sensagent.com/harem/en-en/

hareem, seraglio, serail

hahah, its says hareem means sarial ..

[hareem01]

Re: Hijabi

@TLK

hareem, seraglio, serail

hahah, its says hareem means sarial ..

aap ko sarial kahan se lag raha hai yeh lafz?

[TLK]

Re: Hijabi

when goray pronounce sarial, they say serial .. zara ishtyle se

[Niqaab]

Re: Hijabi

I hate those kind of situations.
I know how you feel
When I was in high school, there was this guy who would always hug me and I think he was blind enough to see that I had a hijab on.
Batameez and the stupid thing is my younger brother who went to high school with me would laugh when he saw the guy hugging me.
And ekkkhhhh he did not smell good.

[NomiCA]

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Can a girl slap a non-mehram guy?? Like on his face??

[hareem01]

Re: Hijabi

@NomiCA

Can a girl slap a non-mehram guy?? Like on his face??

LOL

[Jaanwar]

Re: Hijabi

@NomiCA

Can a girl slap a non-mehram guy?? Like on his face??

Naaw, only on his butt. Otherwise it is haraam.