Hijabi

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Re: Hijabi

@Sara516

I think its rude to not accept someones handshake if they offer one.

Btw, I’m just curious, how will you act in a professional environment where handshaking is normal whenever you meet a contact?

In a socail situation I"d say…hmm..are you a nail biter? Perfect excuse. Or if ur close to food say you haven’t had a chance to go wash your hands yet.

i have been in professional environment, and trust me after once or twice everyone knew my limits and they really did respect that. once or twice when i have to shake hands out of politeness i told them very nicely that please don’t raise your hand to shake with me again, due to my religious reasons, and the people really did respect that and gave me no problems ever.

@Pataka

being hijabi does not automatically mean that the person is super religious. There are hijabis out there that cover but do worse things than shake hands with guys which is why he probably thought “no big deal, it’s just a handshake”

don’t blame other people for being “ignorant” (for lack of a better word). Maybe he just didn’t know, simple.

You should have just declined and said i’m sorry, I don’t do handshakes and smiled.

well then if not your hijab, your cloths, your body language than what does give out that signal that says s that dude “no personal contact please”. specialy when its desi guys who know better than goras.

@firenze

Quoted for Truth.

Personal Experience: Hijabi’s were the most girls i bang around in back days… now that is ****ing confusing.

i can’t be answerable to everyone’s act but i am very clear about mine. i am sure my cloths (other than hijab too) my body language and the way i was only with the girls during the entire party (not dancing etc) gave that much away that i am not that hijabi girl u mentioned above.
one thing surprises me that all the americans i have met in college/work, they seems to really respect and give space to anyone who dress up in certain way such as hijab, but our desi mens don’t let any chance go.

@Niksik

I’ve seen that most people offer a handshake out of politeness and just because they are used to it and not necessarily pay attention to whether someone wears a hijab or not…because like someone said above, some hijabis are OK with it, so a previous experience of the guy who shook your hands may have given him the leeway to do that.

So if it is something you are uncomfortable with, just politely step back and let them know that you rather not shake hands with a na mehram. Your body language will say it all, and most people do not take offense.

i know, i am not doubting on that guy’s intention. i just wanted to discuss how to prevent it in future without making the situation awkward.

@Doppleganger

Are you sure you weren’t flirting with that guy unknowingly? And yes, I know of hijabis that have set on gora laps (very bold I would say) and then have arms around guy friends like a langotia.

oh yes, you hit the nail ont he head. i was flirting with a guy 4 year younger than me, and the only way of flirtation i know is to shake hands with the guy. I am sure he must have picked that up that the 5th girl he shaked hands with gave flirtation signals by *shaking hands.