I just want to share something with you guys perhaps someone can help me.
well i am a student , i live offcampus. I have all the freedome in the world but never abused it. i recently got married with a wonderfull man . we both decided not to live togather until i finish my studies and ofcourse parents agreed. the thing is i used to ware short sleaves shirts and jeans and go out with friends and do lots of stuff, but after i got married i stoped waring jeans (upon his request) i began to ware a hijab ( beacuse of his influence) my friends slowly driffted away from me beacuse every time they wanted to go out i would refuse them beacuse i was scared that i might end up missing my old lifestyle and lose the man that i love soooooo much. now the thing is no one in my family or even his family wares hijab. I can never find any clothes that would make him happy , he thinks anything i ware is not proper. i want to ware hijab but i still want to look nice , but i never found anything that would satisfy that. lost summer i began waring hijab but i recall how hot it was and how my head would get really hot, i cant even go exercising beacuse my head get really hot with the hijab and i feel like i will faint, yet he complains about my figure he wants a perfect figure( i weight 110, with the height 5’4)
you might be wondering what i want from you guys well maybe some one can tell me
is it in quran that hijab is required? ( i have heard differing views)
sorry to make it sooo long but it feels good to take it all out, i dont know if you guys will understand the problem or not but i hope someone can give me some advice that might help me out beacuse right now i dont knw if i want to stop waring hijab …
soory again i just have never been soo confused in my life , i dont really know what i want.
wear hijab coz u feel it is required of you as a Muslim, not coz ur husband tells you to. there is no other reason than that...
and this sounds more like a thread for Life 1, not Religion...
what does ur heart say? dont ask anyone else for their interpretation... read the Quran and see what you think urself :) dont let someone else decide what is right and wrong for u..
you weigh 110 and are 5’4" and he still wants a perfect figure? And how does he expect you to do that? Is he willing to buy you an entire home gym so that you won’t have to wear scarf when working out?
And, I think there are two different issues being discussed here: hijab as required by Islam and a demanding, controlling husband…Regarding the hijab issue, what NW said is right, try to read and educate yourself adn decide if ** you ** feel it is obligatory. Do not rely on someone else to tell you what is right and wrong. Maniac’s right…he should not be so harsh on you…
CKP, your husband sounds like a hypocrit. Does he lower his gaze when he is out and about? Does he make sure that his neck stays straight when he sees another girl in jeans? if the answer to bothe questions is NO. Then tell him to start doing that and you will think about contnuing with hijab. As far as "figure" is concerned, does he work out himself or he just wants a "perfect figured" wife? If I were you, I will have a herat to heart with him and let him know how you feel. Tell him what you just told us.
Why not speak to him directly about how you feel? I think this goes a little bit beyond whether or not hijaab is mandatory or not.
As to whether hijaab is mandatory or not, different scholars have different theories. Depends on the way you take the word (correct me if I am wrong internet imams) "khimar" to mean. The translation I recall is something to the effect, "draw your veil over your bosoms and cover ornaments".
You can either take hair to be an ornament. Or not.
Some say that the part about covering bosoms includes the head. Some say it doesn't.
Also, some say a niqaab - covering the face - is necessary. Some say it isn't.
For some this is a controversial issue, for others it is not.
But in your situation, I dont think pulling an ayah out to show to your husband is going to ease your problems. You bring a scholarly article that says hijaab is not necessary, and he'll pull out one that says otherwise.
He's forcing you.
If he's actually not forcing you, why dont you try to not listen to him for once. If he says he doesnt like something you are wearing, then challenge him. You have every right to - afterall you wore jeans and went out with friends, etc before you married him and he married you KNOWING that this is how you were. Now he has to mature up and adjust to it.
Very hypocritical of him, especially when he doesn't force his own mom or sisters.
u weight 110 n 5’4 n he complains? wat a moron! why doesnt he find a stick that will satisfy him instead of putting u through this? working out n all is good but if you are doing it for the right reasons..actually that goes more with the hijab than anything else. And hijab doesnt mean u put a piece of cloth around ur head, its alot more than that..It seemed like u did it to please him n thats why u r having trouble. I know its not easy to find clothes that are appropirate and trendy but its impossible..where theres a will, theres a way and u will have to give up on somethings..like u cant walk around wearing a red hijab just cuz reds a sexy color n so on..I think u should do research instead of wondering wat other ppl think n u will be convinced that its an order from Allah n wat u r doing is for Him n u r getting rewards for every single effort you make(inshallah) but just make sure ur intentions are right.
n why is it a problem that no one in his or your family wear it? no in my family wears it either, they all dress up n look so hot n i am all covered but i know inside they all wish they could be like me
To answer your question, NO, the QURAN doesn't ask you to wear hijab... other sources might tell you, but the QURAN, the complete and perfect word of God doesn't tell you to wear hijab. Before everybody jumps down my throat telling me that I'm wrong, please only come back with Quranic sources. Thanks.
Yes the Quran does mention that the hijab is required.
**For Muslim men and women, for believing men and women, for devout men and women, for true men and women, for men and women who are patient and constant, for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give in charity, for men and women who fast (and deny themselves), for men and women who guard their chastity, and for men and women who engage much in God's praise -- for them has God prepared forgiveness and great reward. Quran 33:35 ]
"O Prophet, tell your wives and daughters and the believing women to draw their outer garments around them (when they go out or are among men). That is better in order that they may be known (to be Muslims) and not annoyed..." (Qur'an 33:59)
The Qur'an says: "Say to the believing man that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that will make for greater purity for them; and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do. "And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; and that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what must ordinarily appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands..." (Qur'an 24:30-31)
Surah Al-Nur (the Light) (24:31) in the Quran states: "They (the believing women) should draw their head coverings over their bosoms...". . Surah Al-Ahzab (33:59)**
Chand-Ki-Pari-----Now to discuss the issues at hand. You are quite slim for your height actually. You're 5'4 and 110. Trust me that is very good weight for your body. You dont need to lose another ounce. As for your hubby he needs somebody to fix his head. I cant believe he is ordering you in that manner. What you have to do is talk to him. He can NOT force you to wear hijab neither can he dictate your life in that fashion. Thats YOUR choice. Tell him that theres no cumpulsion in religion and he should regain some common sense before its too late. You need to stand up for yourself. You love him, that is fine. However, you have to put yourself up there too, you have to make sure he knows hes being a fool by demanding such ridiculous things from you.
And it doesnt matter whether his family wears hijab.But whether you wear it is not up to him - its your OWN choice.
And trust me its not that hard to wear a hijab in summer, and its not hard looking good wearing it. Maybe you need to find the right material for the summer, but it actually keeps you cooler. As for looking good- yeah ok I understand if you want to look presentable, but come on how hard can it be to be modest but also look alright? Not hard at all. Check out some hijab fashions online. Make sure they're modest though.
I'm not going to bother arguing why those Quranic versus don't specifically ask for a hijab as in a head covering.
Again, its a matter of personal choice - no one can force you to do anything. Especially when the topic is so flaming controversial already. But at least one thing everyone is on the same page about is that there is no need to force anything, and I think that's what is most disturbing about the situation.
just to clarify, not really, say somthing like, Ill wear what i want and when i want, dont be inforcin yo views on me juu hypocritester. and if that doesnt throw him a bit, hire china. she fyi is that wrestler, not the country.
if not he may take get screwed literally and think you are being cute or take you literally.
Surah Al-Nur (the Light) (24:31) in the Quran states: “They (the believing women) should draw their head coverings over their bosoms…”. . Surah Al-Ahzab (33:59)
Anyways, you’re right it’s a personal choice. Do it, or don’t. Your choice. No compulsion. But don’t go about changing the rules according to your preferences.
Again, I'm not getting into the interpretation of Quranic verses here. :)
That's another thread...well that topic has been done to so much death, that I'm pretty secure in knowing the different interpretations of that one line.
wat a moron! why doesnt he find a stick that will satisfy him instead of putting u through this? working out n all is good but if you are doing it for the right reasons..actually that goes more with the hijab than anything else. And hijab doesnt mean u put a piece of cloth around ur head, its alot more than that..It seemed like u did it to please him n thats why u r having trouble. I know its not easy to find clothes that are appropirate and trendy but its impossible..where theres a will, theres a way and u will have to give up on somethings..like u cant walk around wearing a red hijab just cuz reds a sexy color n so on..I think u should do research instead of wondering wat other ppl think n u will be convinced that its an order from Allah n wat u r doing is for Him n u r getting rewards for every single effort you make(inshallah) but just make sure ur intentions are right.