Do what you think is rightâŚin this case, your husband seems to be taking advantage of your love and shows a classic case of male insecurity when it comes to their âownââŚyou are his wife with a personality, not his to ownâŚAs for the Hijab thing, there is plenty of literature which refutes the traditional, male interpertation of hijabâŚ
For our hijab friendly folks..if the hijab implies inability of the women to protect herself without it, it also reveals that man, however well brought up and in spite of supporting the women, is a traitor and a thief of honor. Does Islam teach that manâs evil should be feared and its better that women escapes from him? I think notâŚ
Well it seems to me that U urself do not want to give up on the hijab. So what i would suggest is try getting scarves made out of lighter and softer material that do the job of covering u up and yet allow u to stay cool.
If u only wear a head scarf then its even simplerâŚuse chiffon material and get it either stitched in 2 layers (so its not see thru anymore) or if u just wrap it around twice then thet too would serve the purpose of covering ur head and still keeping u cool.
If u wear an abaya then try getting it made in a material thats airy and light like georgette etc.
Dress modestly in simple but smart clothes. U can have kurtis made with trousersâŚkurtis are loose so cover u properly and they look smart tooâŚand u can get a matching scarf to go with it. This would cover u adequately and will also not be too different from what u used to wear. Smart yet properly covered
& do it for urself u need to be happy and satisfied in order to make someone else happy
As far as the husband is concernedâŚI have no comments at all for someone who expects so much and is not willing to give enough in return.
Ur in perfect shape just maintain itâŚtry changing ur hairstyle or dressing style instead of losing weightâŚcoz u wont be losing weight anymoreâŚuâll be losing ur health.
All the best to U! I hope everything works out fine for u âŚLook after urself and Stay Happy!!!
lostsoul -- I would like to point out to you that Islam doesnt change from person to person or from region to region. Sheesh. Its only one religion with one set of rules. You cant change em to suit yourself.
I really think that this thread shud be split. There are two issues here, one that ha sbeen discussed to death and have countless threads about them. The other issue is her relationshpi with her husband, and that shud not be discussed in this forum.
^ Maybe so. However that doesnt change the fact of what Islam IS. Regardless of whether its in Pakistan or the States. Islam is Islam. People change it to suit themselves, thats their issue.
Core islam would remain the same. Its practise does and would change.
The beauty of Islam is that there is no pope. There is no one b/w u and Allah. And even more, there is Quran. Open it, read it and understand it. Whatever makes sense to u, practise it, to the best of ur intentions. You will be judged by Allah alone.
There is no one here in this world to judge me or u.
^^ I'd presume that you are a fluent arabic speaker, with a further understanding of classical arabic, a dialect in which Quran was revealed as well as an expert on the historical, situational and social context each Quranic verse was revealed......
did you know your husband was going to be like this before you married him?? probably not i bet.. .
i think wearing a hijab is your own decison, dont let him force you into wearing one, especially if you dont feel comforatble wearing it.
