I havent told anyone yet cuz I dont want my parents to get mad...
The thing that hurts me the most is that hese boys r sppose to be the next generation along with us girls and thats how they treat us...with no respect.
About my "friend"..I did confront her and she basically told me I was soo embarassing with my hijab and she didnt want to be associated with a "nun".... she also told me i didnt look as good in my hijab....some friend she is...
I am always trying to put my religion first and I told her that if she couldnt support the desicions i make for myself then we cnt really be friends... and she said that she didnt want to hang out with a girl who looked like a cancer patient (cuz like some of them wear scraves to cover their heads after chemo)...
what is the world turning into!!
These guys should learn their lesson. If your parents will get mad at those guys that is good.
I do not think that they will be mad at you for going to Masjid for your duhar prayers. Tell your parents and let them handle the situation. What if these guys become bold and then try to do something bolder than this. Think about that .
I havent told anyone yet cuz I dont want my parents to get mad...
The thing that hurts me the most is that hese boys r sppose to be the next generation along with us girls and thats how they treat us...with no respect.
About my "friend"..I did confront her and she basically told me I was soo embarassing with my hijab and she didnt want to be associated with a "nun".... she also told me i didnt look as good in my hijab....some friend she is...
Is this someone you consider your close friend? Maybe you need to re-consider your company... with what those guys did to you was down right disrepectful, bhathameez, and she should've had your back. if i was in your position.....i would disassociate myself with her ASAP.
About my "friend"..I did confront her and she basically told me I was soo embarassing with my hijab and she didnt want to be associated with a "nun".... she also told me i didnt look as good in my hijab....some friend she is...
I am always trying to put my religion first and I told her that if she couldnt support the desicions i make for myself then we cnt really be friends... and she said that she didnt want to hang out with a girl who looked like a cancer patient (cuz like some of them wear scraves to cover their heads after chemo)...
what is the world turning into!!
I have alot more words for her, but her parents did a lousy job raising her and she needs ALOT of maturing and growing up to do. Man i wish she was here--everyone could straighten her out lol
and she said that she didnt want to hang out with a girl who looked like a cancer patient (cuz like some of them wear scraves to cover their heads after chemo)...
what is the world turning into!!
WHATTTTTTTTTTTT??????
I would tell her why did she EVEN bother to be a "friend" in the first place? (since you were always in a hijab)
On the other hand - I can also see this as a humor and some guts - AND ONLY MY CLOSEST BEST FRIEND WOULD SAY SOMETHING LIKE THAT HUMOROUSLY. I would humorously tell her to dip her mop in clorox next time she visits me!
Ohmygoodness Mahiya...Im so sorry this happened to you...
Please do not even look in this "friend"'s direction ever again...this is not a friend. Tell your parents so they can teach these people a lesson...never to mess with you or any other girl like this again! You need to tell someone...what if it happens to someone else?
I drove to the masjid today for dhuhr cuz i had a spare after lunch (i am in grade 11).... I went in and as i was leaving with a friend she took off her hijab as we exited the masjid (not that thats the problem)..a couple of muslim guys came on to the other side of the masjid (ladies side) and one of them pulled my hijab off.... i started crying..it was soooo embarassing...i pride myself wearing hijab even though i have received rude comments from non-muslims... but when our own muslim brothers do that its horrible... now my friend told me that i overreacted! I ran into my car..and was just sooo angry... my friend laughed with the guys and then came to the car...i do know she's interested in one of the guys..when i got into the car..she told me i had embarrassed her! I am sooo angry at her and those guys.. is that what the muslim communities have turned into?
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Wow thats really sad!! That "friend" is no friend and you should tell her straight up that its HER behaviour that is embarassing and she is the one who should be ashamed. At least now you know her true colours, you are better off without her so good riddance to her! And those guys are just total wimps and jerks, they should be ashamed of themselves too. They are such cowards and will get whats coming to them one day. Its different when nonMuslims would treat you like this because of your hijab..above everything they reject Allah so who know what is the darkness in their heart...but its just so sad when Muslims would do something sick like that, and that too just after coming from the masjid!!
Just stay strong and know you will be rewarded for all this hugs Stay with friends who respect you for who you are and will stand up for you when you need them!
Aww just love the way u explain her to be strong :)
thanks, its cuz i went through it- and im raised totally different- my sister would b the one to cry- although shes 4 years older than me- and me im the bully- lol so nobody can mess with me- but yeh- just gotta b strong and represent ur religion - cuz honestly islam is one religion looked upon by everyone- Islam is known everywhere and if u let fools just mess around with our religion then u need to knock sense in them-and make them realize what their saying is totally wrong- and need to get their facts straight =)
and ur friend seems immature- laughing about the fact guys pull of hijabs- how dumb!
Hey Mahiya, i'm so sorry 2 hear about this incident, i had heard that things were tough for Muslims in the US but didnt realise that so called 'Muslims' were also so ignorant, and unable to understand the importance of the hijab. Pray to Allah that He gives you the strength to deal with these trials and tribulations, InshAllah you will have the strength to deal with such people. its just very sad that ur so called 'friend' also has the same attitude as these ignorant guys, as advised by others distance yourself from this friend and also tell your parents as they will support you, furthermore definitely inform the masjid, as such behaviour needs to be dealt with, and the Muslim youth needs to be educated.
I pray that you don't get disheartened and become strong in yourself.
Uhm..while this incident is horrible, i dont see why we have to generalize and imply that non-Muslims are just as disrespectful and hateful? IMO it seems like an isolated incident involving immature idiotic teenagers rather than an act of hatefulness...
I am not saying that mon-muslims are all disrespectful and hateful...i was just trying to say that i can understand MORE y a non-muslim might do something or say something rude to a muslim....
Someone asked if i knew the gys..i know there names and faces but have never really talked to them... our community is small so u pretty much no everyone...
i did go to the imam and tell him about the incident and he said he would talk to the boys and also they are arranging a youth halaqa for boys on how to adress a muslim sister or any female!
my "friend" refuses to talk to me cuz i ruiner her changes with that guy but I am just happy shes not with him cz he was a jerk...
haha i know she's your friend but i personally think your friends a jerk and totally deserves a guy. i cannot believe that as a friend she would actually expect you to accept what those boys did and that she's embarassed of you for following what you believe in.
There was this really pretty girl that I went to high school with who did hijab. One day a non-muslim boy...walking behind her....pulled her hijab off. She turned around.....and SLAPPED HIM! In my opinion, he DESERVED it!
Such behavior is NOT acceptable from either a non-muslim or a Muslim. Regardless of what religion one believes in, it is COMMON SENSE to keep your hands to yourself!
Mahiya, I don't know how old you are. But your friend and those guys seem really immature. In fact, their behavior is very high-schoolish, so I'm going to assume that you're a teenager. And I'm proud of you for informing the Imam about those boys. I hope that that those boys will attend the lecture on how to respect women. Have you seen the boys' parents? I think that you should tell your parents about this incident and the next time you see those boys, have YOUR DAD talk to the boys.......OR **better yet....have YOUR PARENTS talk to the boys' parents! **This needs to be nipped in the bud. You don't want this happening to you again and you don't want another girl to be victim of such immaturity because hijab is to be respected.
Now, let's talk about your friend. Your friend's faith must not be very strong if she places an immature jerk over a respected religious practice. Your friend is not a good friend if she is giving more priority to some boy WHOM SHE DOESN"T EVEN KNOW VERY WELL over your feelings. She has SOME NERVE to say that you were embarrassing her when SHE **didn't even stand up for you. That's not the mark of a good friend. YOU should have told her that **HER lack of sensitivity is EMBARASSING and that you can't believe she'd side with this jerk over his stupid behavior.
My suggestion is that you talk to your friend and tell her how you feel. Tell her that hijab is important to you and you wear it to cover your hair in front of non-mahram guys. And that what that boy did was a violation of what hijab stands for. And no guy, who is DECENT, would touch a girl whom he doesn't even know. And tell her that you are hurt at how she defended a guy whom she doesn't know for this behavior.....only so that she won't ruin her chances with him. And tell her that what the boy did shows he has NO respect for women and that she's better off waiting for someone who does respect females.
Mahiya, if your friend doesn't apologize for her behavior.....please drop her as a friend. The girl doesn't have her priorities right. She seems fickle and superficial and selfish. If you choose to continue being her friend....please maintain a distance from her.
As a hijabi, I had my fair share of hijab pulled...Consider it an initiation process...But it stops around ninth grade. People suddenly grow up...Although you may still get some deriding comments about it occasionally. But generally you'll get nice comments, and curious questions, and lots of support.
Anyways, I remember you said you have brothers. I think one of your brothers should go to talk to him...my bro always took care of things like that for me in a very nice manner really. He would just talk to him privatly, and say "hey, i know you pulled my sister's hijab the other day, waht made you do that? what if this was you sister? " It would never happen again after that. No yelling, screaming, or cursing; just calm and cool.
Or sometimes I talked to them directly too. Privatly of course, so as not to embarrass them. THey usually said sorry and never did it again. I remember when we wre in the older end of high school a lot of those same people that pulled my hijab ate lunch with me. Some people just don't think when they're doing stuff especially at your age.
As for your friend...her behavior was out of peer pressure, and she's probably gonna regret it later on in her life. Drop her for now, but she'll probably change when she's older, so extend the olive branch when she's ready too.
In other contexts, I've been in her position at about her age. I wasn't the nicest person in middle/high school...everything was all about me then, until I realized other people were not my servants. It's just the way you're raised. I was raised like a princess among brothers, and got everything on my first demand. Not that that justifies anything but I learned a lot from those that were ready to forgot petty details of our childhood past. It looks really stupid when your 20+ holding grudges of things that happened when you were teenagers.
One very important thing I forgot to add:
DO NOT HIT/SLAP them!! You could get into serous trouble for fights in school and ruin any scholarship chances you have and ruin chances for recommendation letters from teachers you liked. You destroy your own rep this way. It's plain stupid. yeah it seems like a kewl idea at the time, but trust me it's dumb.
Rule of thumb of life: Do not touch another person, no matter how mad you are!!!
There was this really pretty girl that I went to high school with who did hijab. One day a non-muslim boy...walking behind her....pulled her hijab off. She turned around.....and SLAPPED HIM! In my opinion, he DESERVED it!
I drove to the masjid today for dhuhr cuz i had a spare after lunch (i am in grade 11).... I went in and as i was leaving with a friend she took off her hijab as we exited the masjid (not that thats the problem)..a couple of muslim guys came on to the other side of the masjid (ladies side) and one of them pulled my hijab off.... i started crying..it was soooo embarassing...i pride myself wearing hijab even though i have received rude comments from non-muslims... but when our own muslim brothers do that its horrible... now my friend told me that i overreacted! I ran into my car..and was just sooo angry... my friend laughed with the guys and then came to the car...i do know she's interested in one of the guys..when i got into the car..she told me i had embarrassed her! I am sooo angry at her and those guys.. is that what the muslim communities have turned into?
Awww first you are not only a good girl but a great girl.
What you did was normal. That was too bad what they did to you.
I'm pretty sure that your friend asked them to do that to you.
She is a bad girl and laughing means she is not your friend. Leave her. Wo aap say dosti kay qabil naheen.
