I drove to the masjid today for dhuhr cuz i had a spare after lunch (i am in grade 11)… I went in and as i was leaving with a friend she took off her hijab as we exited the masjid (not that thats the problem)..a couple of muslim guys came on to the other side of the masjid (ladies side) and one of them pulled my hijab off… i started crying..it was soooo embarassing…i pride myself wearing hijab even though i have received rude comments from non-muslims… but when our own muslim brothers do that its horrible… now my friend told me that i overreacted! I ran into my car..and was just sooo angry… my friend laughed with the guys and then came to the car…i do know she’s interested in one of the guys..when i got into the car..she told me i had embarrassed her! I am sooo angry at her and those guys.. is that what the muslim communities have turned into?
Sumthing similar like that happened to me excpet back in like 8th grade- 7 yrs back- this chinese boy pulled my scarf off and the whole class (mixed- no muslimes but me) they all were surprised one boy said oh my gosh- you have hair- and so i said yes i do- and i got so angry i went up to the kid who pulled my scarf and kicked him right between his legs- he literally almost passed out- but i was satisfied i did that- bc he deserved it well. after that he remembered and so did my class- not to ever mess with me-
also during the september 11attacks- it was hard- for me - because all the hijabi girls took off their scarfs after the september 11 but i wore it and was the ONLY girl who left it on and listened to everyones bull**** at one point it was so bad- that a kid comes up to me during lunch and says r u related to osama bin laden- i said yes im his sister and the first house im gonna bomb will b urs- now get lost- HAhaha- but i mean eventually every got over it and later on the hijabi girls went back to wearing it - which i thought was funny- lol
so i mean- u just gotta b strong and not cry about these things- i know it hurt u- but u shuldda def have said sumthing- aur aggar laathon ke bhooth baathon se na maaney then u know what to do-just b strong- b proud to represent urself and ur religion- Dont b afraid to speak up- =)
I drove to the masjid today for dhuhr cuz i had a spare after lunch (i am in grade 11).... I went in and as i was leaving with a friend she took off her hijab as we exited the masjid (not that thats the problem)..a couple of muslim guys came on to the other side of the masjid (ladies side) and one of them pulled my hijab off.... i started crying..it was soooo embarassing...i pride myself wearing hijab even though i have received rude comments from non-muslims... but when our own muslim brothers do that its horrible... now my friend told me that i overreacted! I ran into my car..and was just sooo angry... my friend laughed with the guys and then came to the car...i do know she's interested in one of the guys..when i got into the car..she told me i had embarrassed her! I am sooo angry at her and those guys.. is that what the muslim communities have turned into?
you should have slapped that jerk's face and if your friend cannot respect you or your hijab, i don't think you should even be friends with someone like that.
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Wow this is a new low. They went to a MASJID a place of SALAH and went to the other side to chat with some GIRLs and then pulled one's HIJAB OFF?? You should tell the imam or something. People should know about their actions. and your friend acted like a jerk too, I would fully support you if you break it off with her. But you probably will still be friends with her, which is understandable. anyway, best of luck, sorry this happened to you.
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sali- such spunk! i love it, good for you
mahiya that is awful. especially since your 'friend' didn't back you up; if i were you i'd definitely report the incident (since you seem to know who the guys were); they should realize that when they do something so terrible, there are consequences.
hang in there ;-)
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If this is coming from a group of high schoolers..i'm not surprised. pretty stupid actions but i'm sure theyll grow out of it.
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hmm thats so not right. The boys doing something stupid is one thing, but ur friends laughing at u with them is another low...
i hope u have other friends who are better than her. So wrong
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mahiya, I like how you are upset about it - because that tells me you care about your hijaab. Excellent. :)
I agree with whoever said you should have slapped the guy. Honestly, he would have never done it again to any other girl.
Slap him next time you see him. Don't forget. Please.
Sumthing similar like that happened to me excpet back in like 8th grade- 7 yrs back- this chinese boy pulled my scarf off and the whole class (mixed- no muslimes but me) they all were surprised one boy said oh my gosh- you have hair- and so i said yes i do- and i got so angry i went up to the kid who pulled my scarf and kicked him right between his legs- he literally almost passed out- but i was satisfied i did that- bc he deserved it well. after that he remembered and so did my class- not to ever mess with me-
also during the september 11attacks- it was hard- for me - because all the hijabi girls took off their scarfs after the september 11 but i wore it and was the ONLY girl who left it on and listened to everyones bull**** at one point it was so bad- that a kid comes up to me during lunch and says r u related to osama bin laden- i said yes im his sister and the first house im gonna bomb will b urs- now get lost- HAhaha- but i mean eventually every got over it and later on the hijabi girls went back to wearing it - which i thought was funny- lol
so i mean- u just gotta b strong and not cry about these things- i know it hurt u- but u shuldda def have said sumthing- aur aggar laathon ke bhooth baathon se na maaney then u know what to do-just b strong- b proud to represent urself and ur religion- Dont b afraid to speak up- =)
Aww just love the way u explain her to be strong :)
Mahiyah you should have slapped the guy right away as Shay said.
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Report the incident to your Imam and have them make an announcement about the guys who did it and the next time you see him...make sure he FEELS your presence.
As for this friend...she is no friend. You should not be associating with these type of girls because they will only bring your image and self esteem down. Do you want other people to associate you with her? You are the company you keep Mahiya...remember that.
They pulled your hijab off?! This is shocking! Have you told anyone i.e. parents or someone at Masjid?
I think you should lose that "friend" first.
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I havent told anyone yet cuz I dont want my parents to get mad...
The thing that hurts me the most is that hese boys r sppose to be the next generation along with us girls and thats how they treat us...with no respect.
About my "friend"..I did confront her and she basically told me I was soo embarassing with my hijab and she didnt want to be associated with a "nun".... she also told me i didnt look as good in my hijab....some friend she is...
I am always trying to put my religion first and I told her that if she couldnt support the desicions i make for myself then we cnt really be friends... and she said that she didnt want to hang out with a girl who looked like a cancer patient (cuz like some of them wear scraves to cover their heads after chemo)...
what is the world turning into!!
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what a lil *****. You need to drop her... she isn't really a friend. Try to find girls that have the same views and morals as you.... I know its hard. You definitely did not over-react.... and please tell someone about this. Those boys deserve to be punished...
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OMG that's what she said ???
dont worry yar...im really proud of u coz u care abour religion hug..
so that means she thinks using scraves is looks like a patient?? tell her go and get a LIFE.
I havent told anyone yet cuz I dont want my parents to get mad... The thing that hurts me the most is that hese boys r sppose to be the next generation along with us girls and thats how they treat us...with no respect.
About my "friend"..I did confront her and she basically told me I was soo embarassing with my hijab and she didnt want to be associated with a "nun".... she also told me i didnt look as good in my hijab....some friend she is... I am always trying to put my religion first and I told her that if she couldnt support the desicions i make for myself then we cnt really be friends... and she said that she didnt want to hang out with a girl who looked like a cancer patient (cuz like some of them wear scraves to cover their heads after chemo)... what is the world turning into!!
Why would your parents get mad at you? Wouldn't they be understanding and then want to find those boys who took your hijab off? If you don't tell your parents or people at the mosque - another girl wearing a hijab could suffer. These boys should be caught and beaten. Okay caught.
That girl isn't a friend. You should ignore her nasty comments and keep a distance from her.
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Thanks for sharing, this is certainly an eye opener. I've never heard anything like this before.
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^ ye I have never heard anything like this either...
Mahiya: How friendly were you with those guys before this happened? High school kids sometimes forget what they are doing can be wrong. May be the guy who pulled off your hijab did not think of it as a big deal... but I am surprised that this happened AT THE MASJID. Our boys know well to respect, esp. in and near masjid.
I would like to hear the guys side of the story too... if he had attended masjid before - he would know how to respect. That's just too bad what happened...but don't be embarrassed.
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This has happened to me before too. In school, when I was in grade 12. Not near a mosque or anything but a guy came to the girls common room and he did it.
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such incidients demand awareness to the muslim community.the concerned communities and sum senior citizens must show their active role.