With little help from husband, wife can study without any problem or effecting her mother's role. Only if husband pledges to devote his time to kids when he is home after job instead of watching hockey game or standing at street corner with friends eating pan.
For one reason or another, its understood in our society that kids are mom's job from morning till they go to bed which is WRONG. Kids are every bit husband's kids too. Father's responsibility goes far ahead of just providing food and shelter.
true, but this is rare or an exception. the rule is that its next to impossible. did they have children?
My mom did masters (in fact double masters) when I was around 3 years old and I was 2nd child of the family and that was late 70s. I have seen many women getting/completing their education after marriage. My wife got her degree after our marriage.
btw, Whats difficult? stop watching game? :)
Desi husband has to change the way they look at the family. They have to realize that their responsibility does not stop after 9-5 job.
and why not study, even if its just for the tag? its better than being jobless and having too much time on your hands.
I really don't see any diff between the two. Atleast with the 2nd one you are not doing anything good/bad cuz of outer controls but in the 1st case you are basically wasting your time/energy/resources for no reason at all.
With little help from husband, wife can study without any problem or effecting her mother's role. Only if husband pledges to devote his time to kids when he is home after job instead of hockey game or standing at street corner with friends eating pan.
For one reason or another, its understood in our society that kids are mom's job from morning till they go to bed which is WRONG. Kids are every bit husband's kids too. Father's responsibility goes far ahead of just providing food and shelter.
Yes but it's the mother's duty first and foremost to look after the kids just like the Father's first and foremost duty is to provide for the family.
Like i have said it earlier, if the couple has decided on these things before going for higher education/career then it can def work for them.
true, but this is rare or an exception. the rule is that its next to impossible. did they have children?
yes they do have children .. .. let me put more details ..
my mother is a teacher, she spent her whole life in this profession and she runs her own school .. .. my brother, father, and she helped my bhabi to do whatever she wanted to do for her studies .. .. even in tough situations .. .. if she was not there to look after her kids then it was my mum .. .. .. in short, everyone helped .. and still helping .. ..
easier said than done bro...no offense
in most cases yes but I have seen exception in my own house ..
I really don't see any diff between the two. Atleast with the 2nd one you are not doing anything good/bad cuz of outer controls but in the 1st case you are basically wasting your time/energy/resources for no reason at all.
Yes but it's the mother's duty first and foremost to look after the kids just like the Father's first and foremost duty is to provide for the family.
Like i have said it earlier, if the couple has decided on these things before going for higher education/career then it can def work for them.
Even if desi guys can take it on as secondary responsibility, wife can get higher education easily. Problem is most of the desi guys dont take a bit of responsibility in raising kids.
yes they do have children .. .. let me put more details ..
my mother is a teacher, she spent her whole life in this profession and she runs her own school .. ..** my brother, father, and she helped my bhabi to do whatever she wanted to do for her studies** .. .. even in tough situations .. .. if she was not there to look after her kids then it was my mum .. .. .. in short, everyone helped .. and still helping .. ..
in most cases yes but I have seen exception in my own house ..
Even if desi guys can take it on as secondary responsibility, wife can get higher education easily. Problem is most of the desi guys dont take a bit of responsibility in raising kids.
Yes if they do then GREAT. But not all are able to do that which is unfortunate BUT i do see alot of men around who are quite helpful with their wives which is great. So there is an overall improvement i believe.
Please dont spoil us with "nahi ker saktey" (or are not able to do). I have came across enough desi khawateen who feel proud in telling k "yee tu kitchen main pair bhi nahi rakhtey - uth ker pani bhi nahi peeteyt" or "yee kahaan sambhal saktey hain bachoon ko" . Instead, try to make us realize that we could and we should.
Yes if they do then GREAT. But not all are able to do that which is unfortunate BUT i do see alot of men around who are quite helpful with their wives which is great. So there is an overall improvement i believe.
PS: Begum I know you are online, I hope u r reading this all and I'll get some brownie points :D
Please dont spoil us with "nahi ker saktey" (or are not able to do). I have came across enough desi khawateen who feel proud in telling k "yee tu kitchen main pair bhi nahi rakhtey" . Instead, try to make us realize....
OoooK, you tell them boy! lols. I don't see why it wud bring these women any pride showing off their lasy ass hubbies :p u gotta find out and get back to me on this.
Please dont spoil us with "nahi ker saktey" (or are not able to do). I have came across enough desi khawateen who feel proud in telling k "yee tu kitchen main pair bhi nahi rakhtey - uth ker pani bhi nahi peeteyt" or "yee kahaan sambhal saktey hain bachoon ko" . Instead, try to make us realize that we could and we should.
PS: Begum I know you are online, I hope u r reading this all and I'll get some brownie points :D
I really don't see any diff between the two. Atleast with the 2nd one you are not doing anything good/bad cuz of outer controls but in the 1st case you are basically wasting your time/energy/resources for no reason at all.
Ok so according to you--not having anything to do is not a bad thing and going to school is wasting time/energy?
Ok so according to you--not having anything to do is not a bad thing and going to school is wasting time/energy?
Did i say that?
If somebody is out of work, its not out of their will. However if somebody is just wanting to study further to get a tag then i think it is a waste of time/energy.
If somebody is out of work, its not out of their will. However if somebody is just wanting to study further to get a tag then i think it is a waste of time/energy.
Why is it a waste of time or energy? If the tag is motivating them, how is it a waste then? Afterall, dont we always do things we are motivated for? I believe it is far better to get a tag instead of sitting home or being lazy. At least you are being productive and gaining knowledge. And knowledge can never be a waste of time or energy. Beside like I said before, no one can *only *study for the tag. They have some braincells, thats why they are doing it and succeeding in it.
Why is it a waste of time or energy? If the tag is motivating them, how is it a waste then? Afterall, dont we always do things we are motivated for? I believe it is far better to get a tag instead of sitting home or being lazy. At least you are being productive and gaining knowledge. And knowledge can never be a waste of time or energy. Beside like I said before, no one can only study for the tag. They have some braincells, thats why they are doing it and succeeding in it.
I agree, even if its just tags that you're going for, there has to be some motivation or target in life.
it may work for a very few but most end up discontinuing after marriage. It's nt very practical either cuz marriage itself is quite a hard task n comes with alot of responsibilities.
anyways to answer pakwoman....
I am all for higher education BUT only if you need it. Don't just study further to add those "phd" or "masters" tag to your CV or just generally. Like myself after doing a 4 years course in uni, i don't feel the need to do masters in the same subject cuz i think it wl be of no use. However if you think studying further can actually add to you as a person or help u in yr field then by all means go for it. As for as the men are concerned, well you know the evils of the society!!! They want an educated girl but she shudnt be more than 22-23 lols which is quite funny. And i think most guys wud feel intimidated with a women who is more educated than them. But most guys nowadays do go for their masters so it shudnt be a big deal if u want to go for masters.
Goodluck.
or they could be more attracted to young women. why would u want a 30 year old, when you can get a more mileage with a 20 year old?
which are enough to prove your theory wrong ..
We need more of you around