My 21 yr old cousin is heartbroken. She is depressed. The guy (her first love) she was hoping to commit has not and doesn’t look like it going to happen.
She invested the last two years hoping it would work out and putting all her chips on this one guy.
So she is majorly bummed out. What can I do to help her realize that its not the end of world.
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Buy a pillow, draw crazy eyes on it, and a mouth with the ":P" tongue, give it to her. Within a week she'll be back to normal.
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^ This.
You do nothing. Just be here for her if she wants to talk. She's 21. With time, she will get over it and eventually meet another guy who will steal her heart.
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Tell her to burn his picture and flush it down the toilet :p, Shahid Kappor style (if she has not watched "Jab we met", make her watch it)
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You can't really do anything for her right now. Nobody can. It will get better with TIME.
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Leave her alone time is the best healer .
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My 21 yr old cousin is heartbroken. She is depressed. The guy (her first love) she was hoping to commit has not and doesn't look like it going to happen.
She invested the last two years hoping it would work out and putting all her chips on this one guy.
So she is majorly bummed out. What can I do to help her realize that its not the end of world.
You sound like pakistani urdu akhbar :D
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I mean come on .. IT took 2 blaady years to realize ..
anyways, at 21 she aint bhuddi and has long life ahead ..so just wait and let nature play it was ..rather than pinning all your hopes and ‘chips’ on one guy.. this is what happens when Islam isnt followed ..
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so I do nothing 
… no introducing her to new guys… no taking her to shopping spree…
Her mom want her to pick a rishta ASAP but I think it wise for her to enjoy her life without someone.
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Life moves on... same thing happened to me couple of days ago..
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Shopping spree sounds nice. Someone should have taken me to one, 1 month ago. Some similar situation in which I had to just stop living in the past and move on. Anyway, time will heal her wounds (if you believe in such) so leave her alone. She herself can decide to move on or linger in his memories forever.
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yeah lady meancholy is right :k:
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Of course mate, this kind of stuff is right up my alley. Unfortunately.
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My 21 yr old cousin is heartbroken. She is depressed. The guy (her first love) she was hoping to commit has not and doesn't look like it going to happen.
She invested the last two years hoping it would work out and putting all her chips on this one guy.
So she is majorly bummed out. What can I do to help her realize that its not the end of world.
i have a great guy available in NJ, if she is interested. But it's a two way game, most of the girls are psycho anyway.
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perhaps it would work 
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buy her tons of chocos and chick movies that helps ;)
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if it's really depression then please get her to see her college therapist, clinical depression shouldn't be taken lightly, they can go down to an intense low.
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There is nothing you can do, you just gotta let time do its thing. If she truly loved the dude no shopping spree or other stuff like that is going to do anything.
You have to let time pass and the body heal.
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Tell her to remember. whatever befalls you was never meant to escape you, whatever escaped you was never meant to be yours. Trust Allah has a better plan in store for her, it may not seem so right now but reflecting one day you will thank Allah for leading you away the reasons may not be so apparent but one day you will realize them. You can't change the past, but what you can do is learn from it and help the future. You did what you thought was in your best interest given the information you had at that time, however you cannot control what life throws at you but what you can control is how your going to react to it. You can be graceful and move on.