Re: Help.
you know what? i think he should forgive her and respect her honesty. she didn’t confess to being a hooker, a drug dealer or having an abortion with her ex. she confessed to a mistake she made in life. people are allowed mistakes and if Allah swt can forgive…who and what on earth is a mere mortal?
people go through some really bad stages in life. they lose their jobs, get sick, accidents, can’t have kids, whatever. do you suggest extending the nikah-nama to cover all of these instances as well?
“in the event my wife is not a virgin, gets diabetes, loses a limb or ends up unemployed…i am allowed to divorce her and she owes me all the money i spent on her to that date.”
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yes, she should have been honest since the get-go. but don’t you think she stopped a hundred times before telling him this? knowing he will never look at her the same way again? as for finding out through someone else…how often do you think that actually happens? she won’t be walking around with a sign on her forehead saying “look here, non-virgin”. no man will risk his own marriage (or neck for that matter) by pointing fingers at another man’s wife. if she didn’t want to tell him, chances are…he’d never have known. she told him…its a sign of shame, guilt, a conscience that still works.
Piety is NOT limited to virginity people. Its just one aspect of it. Being a virgin doesn’t make one religious…goodness. If this man is truly as pious and devout of a Muslim he considers himself to be…he will understand its not his place to judge her. He will leave that to her Creator and find it in his heart to forgive because that is the right thing to do.