Re: help please!
Thing is I do have a lack of confidence in voicing my opinions to him which is funny because everybody who knows me here in the UK knows me as a confident and outgoing personality. When I’m with him though it’s like automatically I default into just agreeing with stuff that he says.
When he first told me that he wasnt comfortable in me working, he asked if i agreed or not and I just automatically agreed. It took me a while afterwards to realise that no I don’t agree..
There’s a whole issue of lack of communication as well between my terrible Urdu and him not understanding my British accent.
I do believe strongly that family should come first above a career, but I strongly wish to create a balance between them in my life. If that means taking a break from work whilst the kids grow up, so be it. But to not be allowed to work full stop is too much for me, and make me wonder what other restrictions I’l have.. At the moment I’m a sociable person who gets actively involved in the community.. It’s not like I want to get locked up (ok he prob wont completely lock me up but ya get the idea)
We do both share a lot of the same values. I respect him for a lot of characteristics: his maturity and wisdom in difficult situations, his sense of responsibility, (both of which can be rare to see here) his sense of humour etc I think that likewise he sees things in me, and thats why we’ve lasted so long although it has been a rollercoaster ride.
I knowwwww. I can never admit to anyone except anonymously on the internet the real reason why I chose the university that I did. Epic fail