Re: Help Needed
Let me tell you something. Even if a child grows up in a house with 2 parents, if there is no love between the parents, and there is constant bak bak and chukh chukh, that is not a healthy environment. Kids are extremely astute, and they can pick up on the tiniest differences between their parents. And that affects them negatively. The early years of a child are the foundation years. What they see, hear, experience defines them as an adult. And unfortunately they do internalize things. If a kid sees her parents fighting, she will think it’s because of her. Even if it has absolutely, positively nothing to do with her. Do not delude yourself that you are doing your child a favor by insisting on staying with a woman that doesn’t want to stay with you. Yes, you should try to make amends, maybe try increase the love your wife has for you, and try every option that is available to you before the inevitable. But don’t think you have to stay together for the sake of the child. And you live in a country that is always in the favor of the welfare of a kid. You need to build your case. If it is better for the child to be with you, you need to start gathering that proof right now so when and if that time comes, you have a stronger case to present, stronger than hers which will simply be “I’m her mother”. Do not live in the belief that you may not get custody of her if that time or situation comes. That’s a defeatist attitude. You’ve worked so hard on trying to keep your wife happy, work equally hard to try to keep your daughter with you, even if it means she doesn’t live with 2 parents.