We were separate for a week. After a number of messages back and forth I stated to her that we have 3 options: we can talk to each other but this has not worked in the past as the same issues come back again and again, we can speak to the scholar frm before but that has not really worked or we can speak to the psychiatrist who is a professional marriage councillor. I didn’t hear back from her for four days until i asked to see my child. I saw my child in the park and asked why she has not replied to my message and she stated that she was happy to speak to a councillor but i did not message her in the correct manner i.e the message came across negative so I read and re-read the message and there was absolutely nothing wrong.
My wife is now back and we are buying items for the new house we are renting. I have allowed her to pick whatever she wants, I let her make the decision on everything we buy. She has previously stated that her behaviour is due to her ot having her own place, even though in our current house my mother has been abroad for 4 months. I do not know what will happen at the meeting but I am going to move into this house and let her purchase whatever she wants even if it does kill me inside as I firmly believe the issues have nothing to do with the house but she does not want to to admit anything.
Let us hope that the visit to the councillor bears some results, one way or the other.
I am going to the councillor for the sake of my child as I firmly believe that the child will thrive in a healthy environment with both parents but naturally this is the last attempt at figuring out whether we should be together or not. I am scared that if it doesn’t work then yes, I will be unable to see her everyday but also what environment she will grow up in