Help Needed

[Difficulty]

Re: Help Needed

@pkgrl000

Just trying to look at this from the wife’s pov.

When OP cleans house once a week it listed as I hoovered, swept, mopped, dusted, took 15 steps to get to second floor of house. But when wife gets up she simply comes downstairs with baby. Who fed baby in the night, changed diapers first thing in the morning, washed the dirty sheets after baby threw up at 2am etc? Also OP says she cooks during the week but she also does this with baby on hand and probably cleans the house a million times in between OP’s weekly cleaning.

I don’t know the history and why there is resentment for family but I would advise OP try to focus on wife’s activities instead of his own only. Why is he going each night for prayers alone? Is wife made to stay home cuz the baby is too small for late night prayers? the entire post was about OP’s good actions with no thought given to why wife might have misinterpreted the whole thing.

When our child was born I wanted to started changing the nappies but my wife said that I cannot until the baby gets older so I still have not. My wife hardly ever expresses into a bottle so she has always told me not to work up at night BUT even then I will work up (not all the time) and ask her whether she needs help even though I know I am not needed.

@Paheli00

@Difficulty

How long ago did your wife give birth? Does she have ANY help at all during the week with the baby while you’re at work? Or is she alone with the baby anytime you’re out of the home (for work or otherwise)?

She is on her own when I am at work. My family are nearby and she does not want the help, I have mentioned they can come over but not really interested at all.

@Lusi

Besides postpartum depression, you guys always had the issue with communication long before the baby came, neither of you communicate with each other or make collaborative decisions. If my husband has to go somewhere, I know in advance, I am not told two hours before the event and vice versa.

You guys have somehow brought a child into this world but have miserably failed to establish a respectful loving relationship with each other. I would strongly suggest that you two need to sit down and figure it out before it all ends up.

This was one of the few occasions that I did not tell her in advance and it was for an hour. I agree with you view of the communication issues.