Help my friend deal with bait and switch

[queer]

Re: Help my friend deal with bait and switch

good question, gina. he receives numerous offers. on a daily basis too.

however he is very adamant on modesty, maintains a low profile (works out in the dark etc), and is saving himself for the lucky girl. he just didnt think the lucky girl would weigh so much. so..

now he is stunned. and pensive.

[Gina]

Why doesn't he get her a gym membership and enrolled with weight watchers?

[redvelvet]

@queer

folks, this is a serious topic.

how do you deal with bait and switch, especially in cases where you have been lead on for months, maybe years. and specifically regarding weight. because apparently girls have become experts in taking pics where they look skinny. no joke!

serious replies only.

Way too much work to take pictures of angles that are more figure flattering.

Much easier to steal pic of already skinny girl and pass off as your own.

[redvelvet]

@Gina

Omg why isn’t he a model?

His nose was too big. Contouring with makeup took waaaaay too much time.

[redvelvet]

@queer

good question, gina. he receives numerous offers. on a daily basis too.

however he is very adamant on modesty,

Now is that modesty in dress…or modesty of character?

maintains a low profile (works out in the dark etc),

So do criminals…they too work out in the dark..

and is saving himself for the lucky girl. he just didnt think the lucky girl would weigh so much. so..

**If he considers her to be a “lucky” girl…then he should think himself lucky that there’s more of her to go around. **

now he is stunned and pensive.

^That can happen when you’re always in the dark .

[queer]

Re: Help my friend deal with bait and switch

i must say i am a taken aback by the mass support for the crooked fat girl from people here. especially you, RV. i’d expected a lot from you.

[Sara516]

@redvelvet

Way too much work to take pictures of angles that are more figure flattering.

its really not.

aur kaisay phasaya apne mian ko.

[redvelvet]

@queer

i must say i am a taken aback by the mass support for the crooked fat girl from people here. especially you, RV. i’d expected a lot from you.

I wasn’t aware that you had held me in such high regard with such high expectations. I’m flattered
And not in the least bit ashamed You can take that waving orange finger…and wave it before your pal

[redvelvet]

@Sara516

its really not.

aur kaisay phasaya apne mian ko.

That’s easy. I went into my cousin’s room (she was skinny, gori, pretty)…when she wasn’t around and swiped her picture. My lack of scruples was justified by my hatred for her. Then I passed that picture off as my own. It brought me fame

[NaMaan]

Re: Help my friend deal with bait and switch

What will a girl do if she finds out that the guy is fat or short etc etc . She'll come on GS , open a thread , will tell all of her family and friends and will be like ''how dare he approach me'' ... Right !!!

I say he should do the same . But again he seems like a nice guy . So tell him to move on . For god's sakes he lives in LA . All the hot women are there . He should be able to find one .

[Sara516]

Re: Help my friend deal with bait and switch

All joking aside, I do think if a girl were to post about how a guy pulled a bait and switch EVERYONE would take her side for it and call him a loser etc etc. Really not fair methinks

okbaktowork:help:

[BarbieCue]

Thats it Sara, Nami, Nikki, and Reha :ASA: Now its my turn to open up a sarcastic thread!

[Niksik]

Re: Help my friend deal with bait and switch

OK Queer, this is such a dilemma

I say he sue her for emotional distress.

[Roxx]

@queer

So my friend, lets call him Shoaib, just got back from a trip to the east coast. Turns out he’d flown to meet a girl he’d been talking to on MSN for a year. They were all fine and compatible and in love on MSN, but Shoaib says the girl he met is really fat in comparison to the pics she showed him. So he’s pretty weirded out and not sure what to do about it. I told him to laugh it off and chase someone else, preferably in the same city. But he is all hung up on her. What to dooo?

Awww… I’m sorry to hear about that. :bummer:

He needs to ditch tubby-Tina and meet my friend, Sania. She’s rich, athletic and verrrrry open-minded about subjects such as religion, and fashion. The more mean-spirited might say she’s a butterface, but I think she has a great personality. I don’t know why your friend is still hung up on fatty-fatty-two-by-four-can’t-get-through-the-kitchen-door: it’s not like he’s married to the girl!

[Pseudonymous]

@queer

Mr. Shoaib is a fine stud of a desi male. He is 6'2, 180 lbs, six-pack abs. and a virgin. and a former investment banker who quit as a conscientious objector to CLOs and CDOs and started his own business in prosthetic limbs for kids.

Please do not cast asperations on his character.

Where does he live again? :)

[Noor_is_a_Bore]

Re: Help my friend deal with bait and switch

Who cares if she's fat? Is his "love," for her really that easily nullified by the weight of a person? If he is compatible with her, then it's based on personality, aspirations, belief system, etc, not the size of her waistline.

The way you describe him sounds like how one would present a person for purchase on the black market. Height/job/etc are all material qualities. Nothing that you've listed is any reflection of his character, apart from him second guessing if he likes this girl or not solely based on her mass. If either of you want to put so much value on these inconsequential characteristics, then why doesn't he just slap a price on himself and throw himself in an auction house?

You're taken aback by our support for a girl who's value as a person is being judged by her weight, yet I see nothing more than two men caught up in a shallow and vacuous notion of entitlement to women who meet some physical standard because they think they're such a great catch. What it really boils down to, is that your friend (and you), are viewing this situation like a farmhand on a stud ranch. Open the mare's mouth, check her teeth, and tally how much she's worth.

If he really cared about her, he'd find out why she weighs so much (be it lack of a healthy lifestyle or due to medical issues), accept her flaws,and if applicable, help her overcome them.

So the real question is, is he looking for a purebred merely to breed with, or is he looking for a true companion to spend his life with? And if he chooses the former, in the future he'd do well not to mislead women into thinking he's worth anything more than what his clothing and gym membership cost.

[Noor_is_a_Bore]

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On a lesser note, I'd love to see a photo (and know the age), of your friend, being that he gets "numerous daily offers," for modeling. I'm wondering if he's telling you this happens, or if you witness it firsthand.

And I think I'd know if someone were lying :)

[MIAinVA]

Re: Help my friend deal with bait and switch

^:smack: Someone please enlighten Ms. Noor who Queer’s “friend” is.

[Noor_is_a_Bore]

@MIAinVA

^:smack: Someone please enlighten Ms. Noor who Queer’s “friend” is.

If you know, why don’t you say? Is this all supposed to be one big joke?

[MIAinVA]

Re: Help my friend deal with bait and switch

^Yep, he's talking about Shoaib Malik, the cricketer who's recently been in the news over his upcoming wedding with Sania Mirza and there's a girl who claims to be his first wife.. she says he didn't want to acknowledge her cuz she's fat.