Hi I WAS so much upset i am using the word WAS because now I have decided after all of yours suggestions that I must change my thinking and try to look more attractive with whom I have really I am not playing with words you ppl cant imagine that how much your advices help me out.i have decided that I will never go for a surgery Actually I do love marriage before 1 and a half year with my hubby he is more good looking as I am average (many says that i am attractive ) but every one say that He is more good looking then me even her mom teases me every time for this looks issue in this situtation when every one is saying that he is more good looking he also start point out that i have a bad figure the depression is naturally My hubby like his self very much and I love him madly.Now the last favor I need from you all is How can I make my self more attractive and confident and the ways to gain his attention and trun him towards me more
Rida,
There are several things that you need to think about. First of all...........do YOU go around telling women that "Oh your husband looks better than you"????? Tum aisa karti ho???????? Do you go around telling people "Oh your sister looks better than you. Oh your cousin looks better than you." Tum kya aisa karti ho???????????? Most likely, you don't behave like that. Jin logon main tameez hoti hai........jin logon main aqal hoti hai............jin logon k dil achay hotay hain.............woh kabhi bhi is tarha k fazool comments nahin pass kartay.
In my experience I have noticed that jo log khul kar aisi comments detay hain...........woh KHUD andar se insecure aur jealous hotay hain. Aisay log khud ehsas-e-kam tareen ka shikar hotay hain. Aisay log apnay looks main confident nahin hain.........aur woh samajhtay hain k agar hum doosron ko hurt karain...........to khud ko hum ooncha kar rahain hain. For example.........an overweight girl might make fun of a thin girl...........because she feels insecure about her own self.
Your husband's behavior is pathetic. I can't believe your own husband would be so obssessed with his own looks that he joins others in criticizing you. He's a man.......and he's acting like a freaking girl by gushing over his own looks and putting you down. Doesn't your husband have anything better to do with his time than joining the women in their catty behavior?????????? It's so weird.
If you want to be confident............you have to ACT it. Confidence is not just about wearing stylish clothes and sporting a cute hairstyle or painting your face with make up. Confidence is about ATTITUDE. YOU NEED TO ACT LIKE YOU BELIEVE YOU ARE PRETTY. It may be hard at first.....but you need to show your husband you are confident in your own skin and that you are not putting up with his crap.
The next time your husband makes fun of your looks........you need to tell him, "Look......it's getting old and I don't appreciate these comments. Making fun of the way someone looks is higschool behavior. You're an adult......you should be above this. And as my husband......I expect better from you. You knew what I looked like before you married me. If you were not happy with my breast size....you always had the option of marrying someone else. I am confident with the way my hair, face, breasts, and whole body looks. I am not deformed. I am not handicapped. I thank Allah for the way that He made me. If a person only has good looks and not a good personality or intelligence or character..........that is one empty individual. Because your looks will fade with time, but personality is more permanent. Try reflecting over these ideas. You're going to need a brain to do this.....not a mirror."